I've posted this before. My wife was raised Catholic. She was divorced when we met and they had convinced her that she needed to have her previous marriage annulled. So she started jumping through their hoops. At the time, she was a single mother, deaf, working two jobs to stay afloat. The Catholic church said she could have her annulment if she paid some preposterous amount. I think this was about $3000 (about 25% of her salary in the early 90s).
I called the archdiocese asked what was the fee was actually for. I was told, "It is to cover administrative costs." I asked how that amount was actually determined. I was told, "It is based on income." I said, "Administrative cost is the same whether she makes $10,000 a year or $100,000 a year." Was told those are the rules. I asked how they could justify charging a deaf, single mother, who was working 2 jobs, that amount of money. No response. At that point, my cool, calm demeaning rapidly went away and I asked how much they charged to rape young boys.
Additionally, she was wanting to get married in the Catholic Church. I think that was the reason they were holding the 'fine' over her head. But they also required me to 'convert'. I asked the priest, "How can I convert to your religion if you tell people that communion is only open to Catholics?" I told him it seemed to me is was God's table, not man's. He told me, "That is a rule someone came up with and it is driving people away, but I didn't say that." Now this was a married priest who the Catholic Church hired away from some other religion at some point when they were running low on priests. I think he was Episcopalian. I told him, "So, when your church needs something, it is OK to break the rules, but when it comes to showing simply human kindness, you stand your ground." No thanks.
Bunch of fucking hypocrites. I know a man who advises churches of all religions. In one of his books, he wrote, "Nothing has destroyed spirituality more than organized religion." Another one if this sayings is, "Religion is a man sitting in church, thinking about fishing. Spirituality is a man fishing, thinking about God."