I don't think I've told this.....if so, sorry for the repeat. I was in treatment at Cumberland Heights in Nashville. They have a program that is sponsored by The Grammys, called MusiCares. They work to provide treatment for anyone in the music industry. Artist, songwriters, roadies, managers, etc. Because of this, they have connections with a LOT of musicians who come back to talk, sing at the Sunday service and work with people in the music program. I was lucky enough to get into that music program, run by a brilliant musician and fantastic human named John McAndrew.
The music program consisted of 1 hour a week with John and other patients in the program, 1 hour one-on-one with John, 1 hour where he puts all of the patients in the music program together and you have 30 minutes to pick a song, work it out then perform it, and 1 hour where a Nashville musician comes in to talk about recovery.
Going back since 1983, my very favorite songwriter is John Hiatt. My second week there, one of the other patients says, "Our guest tomorrow is some dude named John Hiatt. My dad was pretty excited when I told him that. Have you ever heard of him?" Sure enough, the next day Hiatt walks in to the practice space with his sponsor. He told his story to us, then asked what questions we had. There were 5 of us in the room. I asked a couple of questions about the timing of specific albums and how they related to his recovery, then asked why had chose different producers for the two sides of "Riding With The King." He said, "I appreciate you knowledge of my career, but I want to keep this on recovery." I then recounted a time in right after "Bring In The Family" when I saw him backstage talking with a fan about his recent recovery, and both men were crying. I told Hiatt that even though I was just a drinking 25 year old at the time and no idea I careening toward 30 more years of drinking, that moment always stuck with me.
The next day I was talking with the music leader and said, "I need to apologize for asking Hiatt about his career." He said, "Do you honestly feel bad about that? If so, don't. Hiatt LOVED that. He usually comes here and no one knows who he is. If you had asked, he would have given you his phone number."
Another guy who came to our group was Travis Meadows. He told a story about a girl he met at a school for troubled kids. Travis said her story was the saddest he ever heard....and has the saddest story I'VE ever heard. Anyway, he was talking to the leader at the school and that dude said, "When the only tool you have is a hammer, you are going to pound your emotions down, and when you do that, they sometimes come out sideways." He wrote this.