Oh... @Celery Man I must have missed it. OUTSTANDING news! Where is the new gig?
Had something happen that I found interesting. While in rehab, I've become much more versed in the opioid situation for a lot of reasons. But a little over a month ago we had a good friend who lost a 21 yr old son. Everyone knew what happened but I was giving them room before I even tried to talk with them. And I never really saw anything to verify what everyone already knew. Ran in to a common friend to check on their status. I learned that the parents had jumped in completely to learn all they never knew and didn't know about opioid addiction. Once I found out that they weren't putting their head in the sand or trying to deny the cause, I contacted her. Then, a week later she posted this brilliant writing about the situation.
I mainly wanted them to listen to Stephanie Wittles Wachs' BRILLIANT podcast, "The Last Day". She later told me she had already read her book and just about every other book I knew about. Then we were able to have a really long conversation. One thing she said was, "I posted that because people are going to think what they want about us but I didn't want them to be dragging his name through the mud....but assholes who don't understand are going to do that anyway." She also mentioned several time about what a failure she and her husband felt like. All typical stuff. I just listened and didn't say, "Don't say that. Don't feel that way. You are wrong...you are GREAT parents". I just let her talk.
At the end she said, "Thank you so much. You are the first of hundreds of people who hasn't told me not to feel this way."
One thing I'm learning through my little trail this past year and 4 months is, "You feel how you feel. Don't try to change it. Just sit with it, realize what it is and move on." The moving on part is the variable.....some things take longer to move on from than others. Moving on from a son dying from an OD will obviously just take a lifetime.
I told her that being a Texan, I had to rely on my spiritual roots. The Tao of Willie. I told her the story of Buddy Cannon overhearing Willie Nelson talking to a friend who had just lost her husband. She told Willie, "I don't think I'll ever get over this." Willie told her, "It's not something you get over. It's something you get through."