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Posts posted by Al_4_ISU
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Looks like 70’s when we hit ATX en route to SA tomorrow.
Its not that bad up here by our standards (high of 35 today with almost no snow on the ground - for contrast, it was -25 on NYE last year), but 70’s in December will be solid.
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1 hour ago, Alvin89 said:
This is pretty much where I’m at. I’ve tapered off my drinking substantially this last year and hit the gym pretty hard. When I do tie one on with friends I’m pretty much useless for the next full day because the hangovers are miserable now. I know I don’t have a real problem that’s effecting my life in major ways but I also know I’m not letting myself grow as much as I want. Not to pass the blame but my friends drink a ton and a lot of my drinking tends to be social drinking. I’ve been the goofy fun drunk with these guys for the better part of my adult life but the fun doesn’t out weigh the hangovers anymore. I can’t think of the last week where I didn’t drink at some point with dinner or after work even if I didn’t get drunk. I think I’m gonna give a month with 0 alcohol a shot starting in January. Any tips on staying straight for a full month?
NA beer in social drinking situations worked well for me.
My over the top moments were always in social settings too. Never been one for getting drunk alone. I’m an extreme extrovert and have been the fun drunk guy for years. I guess just remind yourself you don’t always have to be the life of the party. Like you, my friends often encourage my drinking, because I AM a lot of fun when I drink. I just don’t want to be that guy all the time anymore. Thankfully they all understand.
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Somebody needs to post the dick flop gif
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He hired Courtney Messingham to be his OC.
Rhoads made Messingham our OC after Herman went to Ohio State. The guy makes Greg Davis look like Sean McVay.
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3 hours ago, Nivek said:
You are searching for shit to whine about.Chad?
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On 12/19/2018 at 9:38 AM, 4th&Five said:
I like both of these a lot.
The Raconteurs are my favorite Jack White vehicle. Consolers of the Lonely is the best album he’s put out.
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3 minutes ago, VolenteHawk said:
Yeah, this is kinda me. I’ll eat some left overs, especially stuff that gets better, but I grew up eating horrid leftovers of shit that wasn’t good the first time. I resolved that if/when I ever had money, I was never eating terrible generic versions of stuff to save a dime (mustard, cereal) and I was only eating leftovers I liked after the first day (chili, BBQ).
The “don’t waste food” ethos was drilled into me early. I intentionally cook with leftovers in mind because I was so used to that growing up. I’ll thaw out a package of brats on a Sunday, and grill them all up for consumption through the week. Or make a big pot of chili or soup with the same intent.
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8 minutes ago, MNLonghornFUKM said:
Yea true. Well duluth is blue and is Rochester.
Where i live is 45k and blue for the most part. I just assume hes from a bigger MN city because hes obviously not a hillbilly. Maybe hes native American because thats whats left..You sure about that? I get the impression, compared to other cities it's size, that Rochester is pretty red.
EDIT: Just checked the '16 election; Clinton won Olmsted county by .7%. So still blue, but not by much.
You must be in Mankato, Moorehead, or Winona.
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1 minute ago, TwiceHorn said:
And, happy to say it, Al's post reflects a hard drinker with semi-rational reasons for drinking, few consequences, and the ability to moderate/quit. In other words what most of us hoped to be and were not.
TBH, I'm glad my wife said something before it got to that point. I like to drink. Most of my friends and family like to drink - it's always around. I love craft beer. I brew with friends, and have two world class breweries within 20 minutes of my home. I don't want to never drink again. But if I didn't slow down and change what I was doing, I might have done something stupid that hurt someone. I like to drink, but I don't like drinking more than I like being able to sleep at night not carrying that weight and guilt.
I also don't know that I would have been able to do it without therapy. I needed honest, objective, third party insight about what I was doing, and more importantly WHY I was doing it. @ztejas if your alcohol use is increasing (like mine was at that point in time - I was drinking less than college, but more than any previous point in my "adult" life), there's probably something driving it, and I'd wager it's better to figure that out sooner than later.
The best example of how it became reflexive was my nightly stop at the gas station on my way home from the farm to pick up a tall boy. A lot of weeknights that was my only drink. But for at least a year, I stopped every single day after I left the farm and nursed that baby on the way home. It was my routine. I can't remember the last time I stopped at the gas station and grabbed one for the road. That's just not part of my mental lexicon these days.
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17 hours ago, Round Rock Horn said:
Why is the responsible person always looked at as the asshole? My brother has been an active alcoholic all of his adult life. He is currently going thru a nasty divorce, felony assault charge looming over him and not worked in 10 years. Earlier this year as the assault charge was coming down he asked my Mother if she would help him get into rehab. After he completed rehab and IOP I was asked if he could use one of my company's non branded Tahoe's while he was getting back on his feet. My wife and I discussed it and decided that if he followed certain conditions he could borrow the truck. First, He would have to pay his own insurance. Second, no drinking. Third, be working the steps. Forth, be actively looking for a job. Fifth, if he did not comply with these conditions he would lose the truck and a relationship with us. Everything was going great until the weekend before Halloween. He was in an accident and hit 2 parked cars in Chuy's Round Rock parking lot. The evening of the accident I get a call from my Mom that (his words) he blacked out and was in Willco jail and we could come pick him up now. Things did not add up so I called a friend who has access to Willco booking computer and get the charge: DWI 3rd. Come to find out from my insurance company that before the cops showed up he tried to pass himself off as me and gave the other drivers an expired USAA insurance card. He had Geico. USAA also told me his BAC .273. He did about $7500 in damage to my car and about $10,000 to each of the other cars as well. The next week in one last attempt to help I went to Dallas to take him back to rehab and he basically shut the door in my face. I told him as i was leaving that until he worked the 9th step I was going to be out of his life. So now we are at Christmas and every year we invite the whole family to our house Christmas night for dinner. My Mom feels that my brother should be included because his son will be at the dinner and he's currently sober. I don't and won't invite him. I have been thru Al-Anon and if I don't detach with love I would just be contributing to his problems. Sorry if this is the wrong thread for this post its just so frustrating when you can look at the user and the enabler and watch things keep getting worse. Thanks for letting me rant.
A lot of parents are simply incapable of holding their children accountable for anything. This sounds like a much wilder version of my wife's family. Her brother is an unemployed 27 year old pothead who lives at home. He's been convicted (got deferred judgment) for possession with intent to deliver when he was 19. About 3 years ago he got an alcohol OWI and possession of weed within an 8 week period. I'm 100% pro-legalization and see very little wrong with smoking weed, but when he didn't have his license, my MIL would drive him to his dealer's. Within a day of any mistake he's made, they're justifying and excusing it. It was that way when he was younger, and they've made a monster. I remember one of the first family events I attended with my wife, and he (still a teenager) was yelling at their grandma in a shockingly disrespectful fashion. I would have gotten my ass whooped if I did something like that, but there was no consequence. He just got yelled at.
Any time I suggest that he should try to get out of the house, work, and better himself, I'm an asshole who has always hated him. I can relate on a milder level.
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48 minutes ago, MNLonghornFUKM said:
All i know is GOTJ left blue Minnesota for red Texas because the winters are too cold and because Texas is the only state to have twilight showings during a texas longhorn football game. If you had stayed here...you wouldnt be where you are at right now
You have nobody to blame but yourself for being such a woman.The Twin Cities are blue.
The rest of the state is pretty red. I saw a Confederate flag flying in front of a house in Fillmore County recently. It was a well-manicured place too - not obvious white trash. Michelle Bachman is from Minnesota.
Minnesota is as good a case study of the rural/urban red/blue divide as any state in the country, IMO.
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15 hours ago, ztejas said:
Thanks to everyone that's replied/mentioned me in this thread. Also for the non ztejas contributions - got pretty emotional reading through some of y'all's stories at work today (not tampon emotional, more of "shit that's making me tear up"). The bat-boy line from @JohnnyRage really got to me on an existential level.
Lately I've been trying to string days together more than anything. I know if I could just get over the 3-4 week hump I'd look and feel a lot better on the level. I don't drink every day, but mentally and even physically I'm in this weird place where some days I feel great if I didn't drink the day before, but some days I feel like shit and get really depressed at night if I try and stay stone-cold sober.
Unfortunately I plan on getting prettydrunk a couple of times in NOLA, but thinking I'll try and set some "rules" up beforehand so I don't wind up face down on the concrete or in handcuffs. I think the fact that I'm concerned about it ahead of time will hopefully lead me to make better decisions while I'm there. In the meantime, I'd like to keep it to maybe 2-3 nights a week and less than 5 drinks at a time. For the first time EVER I've found that (at times) I can have 2-3 drinks, cut myself off, and not have that insatiable itch to down the bottle or go looking for more. But that itch is still there.
I think what I'm struggling with the most and continue to struggle with is the concept of hanging it up and never drinking again. Not having a glass of wine with a nice meal, not having a beer with an old friend, not having a night cap with pops at a family gathering.
I'd like to get to a meeting at some-point - I'm in the Preston Hollow area in Dallas if anyone wants to PM me a suggestion for a meeting spot close by.
Cheers and Happy Holidays. Definitely not an easy time of the year to battle alcoholism.
I tempered my drinking about 2-3 years ago. I was hitting it pretty hard, and had yet to experience any consequence (I've never been a drunk driver, get violent/angry or anything like that), but my wife was getting concerned that I was heading down the road. She didn't think I was an alcoholic, as normally I would have 1-3 or drinks per day and cut it off (during the week - I hate working hungover), but on the weekend I would hammer it down pretty hard. This culminated in me staying out until 4-5AM, passing out on the toilet, and trying to flush a decorative hand towel the night after an Iowa/Iowa State game.
I quit cold turkey for awhile and found it wasn't a big deal at all. During that time, I went to a therapist, open to the possibility that maybe I was an alcoholic. The therapist came to the conclusion that I wasn't an alcoholic, but had developed a habit of using booze to cope with stress. My wife and I had been in a rough patch related to both of us working like crazy, and not being aligned about having children, and rather than actually talk to anyone about it (German Catholic), I was just trying to numb my brain when I was freed from responsibilities. Because I live in place where almost everyone drinks, and most fairly heavily, it never really stood out to anyone other than my wife and brother (who had left the area). I'm not a mean, angry, or even reckless drunk, so people never really gave it much thought.
Not drinking doesn't bum me out, I found. I guess I don't really have the "itch". I don't obsess over it. I started drinking again, and it's in the normal fashion. The amount of thought I give to obtaining and consuming alcohol is low (it never was all that high - it was more of a reflex). Sometimes I go weeks without having anything (particularly when in the field), and sometimes I tie one on (see San Antonio next week). It was never hard for me to shut it off in the past, there were just times where I wanted to just completely shut off the noise and leaned on the bottle to do it. I could control it, and deliberately chose not to, for stupid reasons. Once I learned to break myself of that coping mechanism (via therapy) and adopt healthier ones (exercise is the big one), I've found myself not even wanting to drink when I'm pissed off or depressed, and when I do drink, it's a celebratory event with friends.
Rambling bullshit aside, try quitting for a bit, and combine it with therapy. You might find that booze is something you can control and engage with in a normative fashion. You might not. The most important thing you'll learn is what life without it feels like again. I found it was pretty pleasant and if the day came where I had to drop it, I don't think I would miss it that much at all. I believe it is possible for many people who are abusing alcohol, but not dependent on it, to pull back the reigns and maintain a functional relationship with booze. Obviously this isn't the case for everyone, but you can't know where you stand until you're willing to really look into it. Good luck!
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39 minutes ago, elfenix said:
you knew the derel?
This reference is going over my head.
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11 minutes ago, High Plains Drifter said:
People in their pajamas past 8 am anywhere that isn't their own house.
I mostly work in the field or from home, but I do go in to the office once a week or so. Few weeks ago, everybody was wearing flannel sweat pants and tee shirts. I had forgotten that it was "pajama day". Fucking pajama day. Pajama fucking day. Jesus wept.
I knew a guy in college who used to exclusively wear pajama pants. To class. To parties. To run errands. Fucking everywhere.
He was also one of those really annoying stoners who had wealthy parents that enabled his weird bullshit, but he always had weed so people put up with it for awhile. He was from suburban St. Louis and couldn't go 10 minutes without mentioning that Albert Pujols lived on his street. He was the fucking worst.
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People who routinely buy more food than they're going to eat, and then toss half the meal. Bitch, if you aren't going to do leftovers, order less.
Also, if you're an adult that won't eat leftovers, you're probably a bitch.
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I don't want to piggyback onto Lobo's epic rant over in the holiday bitch thread, but the next foofoo coffee drink bullshit that my wife actually finishes will be the first damn damn one ever.
Every fucking time she gets a size too big, drinks half of the mother fucker, and it gets tossed.
It's like the shithead roomate I had in college who would order a double quarter pounder from McDonald's on every visit. Every time he'd eat half, and then toss it. Whenever I suggest he simply order a quarter pounder and eat the entire thing, he'd lose his shit.
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On 12/18/2018 at 12:12 PM, Mole said:
We’re heading out of town for the holidays. We don’t fly because we’ve missed too many flights. It’s a 10-12 hour drive to her family’s house. I woke up at about 6 and was told that she could leave “whenever I wanted.” It’s after 1pm and I’m still on the couch. After everything is done, I predict a 2pm departure. I might be too optimistic.
If I were you I would be imprisoned or divorced.
I realize I'm probably the other extreme, but holy fuck there is nothing, I mean NOTHING, that pisses me off more than the perpetually late.
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We were spanked up until maybe 6 or so.
Then we were either punished by having things taken away, or having more work to do on the farm. Those were always way worse punishments as you got older, but my brother and I were both terrified of getting spanked as little kids. My brother was such a pussy about it that my dad quickly learned that all he needed to do was place one hand across my brother's bare ass, and then my dad would hit the back of his own hand and my brother would still cry.
The last time my old man did anything physical was when he learned that we had been firing off a veritable arsenal while we were supposed to be clearing farmland of rocks. I was 14, and we worked on a crew of about 10 other kids, most of whom were 18-19 (we were working on my family's farm). They were the ones who brought the guns, and being as they were seniors while I was an incoming freshman, I figured it was better to stay on their good side. So I didn't say anything about it, but the neighbor heard what must have sounded like a war zone, and called my old man. When he found me and my brother, we were home doing hog chores. He picked me up by the coverall and threw me at least 5 feet through the air into a pile of hog shit.
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15 hours ago, Jerry Callo said:
Recent, near suicidal instagram post.
He's also got a history of significant drug use.
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Artie Lange (51)
Donald Trump (72)
Pete Davidson (25)
Doug Stanhope (51)
Michael Cohen (52)
Jerry Jeff Walker (76)
Todd Snider (52)
Willie Nelson (85)
Keith Richards (75)
Any Soundcloud rapper (?)
Obviously I hope I'm wrong with at least 70% of these.
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59 minutes ago, Cheeseweasel said:
I thought that's what Facebook was for?
Good point. I think they feel more like they've done something with the Xmas card, however.
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15 minutes ago, Huckleberry said:
I agree with this. The best chance for the Big 12 to survive with Texas and Oklahoma is a playoff system with automatic berths for P5 champions.
I'd still only put it at 50/50 for survival but it's absolutely imperative. Still doesn't address the population and TV market issues.
I think the aftermath of the last round of realignment has demonstrated that issue isn't all that important. The Pac 12 and ACC have huge population and TV markets. They make less than the Big 12, and outside of Clemson are lagging behind on the field of play. The Midwest and the South are where college football is king. The Big 12 straddles those parts of the country.
I've always believed that the make or break for the current Big 12 is whether or not Texas and OU's affiliation with it keeps them from their goals. It doesn't appear to at this point in time, but the future of the playoffs weighs heavily on that and will likely be either the lynch pin that prevents further realignment or the catalyst for it.
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4 minutes ago, Rimbo said:
I think it will, but I don't think Texas, OU, and possibly a pair of Little Brothers will be part of it.
If an 8 team playoff comes before TV negotiations, I'd bet my house that all current Big 12 schools will be in the Big 12.
Texas and OU leaving their best chance to the national title in order to schedule an extra couple games against blue bloods every other year is complete insanity.
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I'm An Alcoholic
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I thought Kaliber was decent.
If someone can make an NA IPA that tastes like actual beer, they’d hit it big.