This is so true. It takes so much more than just sticking around, and it takes so much more than boring dad lectures. My high school aged kids are bombarded with all kinds of toxic personalities, both male & female, on social media and with in-person social situations. Then there’s the ever escalating political rhetoric and associated social fallout from all of this toxic tribalism. Modeling desirable and appropriate values, behavior, healthy relationships, strength & compromise in handling conflict resolution, empathy, self-care, service, etc, for my kids has always been important to me, but even more urgently these days. Being a “walk it like you talk it” positive male role model and dad is very mindful and deliberate. I won’t let my son become enamored with and emulate “men” like Cobra Tate and other self-described “alphas” of his ilk, and my daughter understands her worth and already has very high standards for the kind of young men she’ll allow in her social circle. My kids came out of a heartbreaking and rage-inducing situation of horrific abuse and neglect prior to me adopting them out of the foster care system. I’m fortunate and grateful that they acknowledge and appreciate my active parenting and the structure, safety, and stability I’ve provided. There have been rough patches, but I imagine there are different challenges parenting kids who have only known safety, security, and a loving home. I guess all of us have to fight to keep them from getting soft, spoiled, and susceptible to negative influence.
Kinda TLDR version - The fight against the influence of these toxic morons is a deliberate commitment that doesn’t get won with fatherly advice alone. Be about it.