I saw you posting in the alcoholics thread. Are you full on trying to quit or just be ‘normal’? Do you get withdrawals, shakes or other physical symptoms beyond just a hangover? Do you obsess about drinking on your days off?
I will tell you, at least from my own personal experience, that you may be torturing yourself a bit by having your longest streak be only 3 days. For many physical addictions that seems to be about the baseline for fully ridding them of your body, and for mental habits that’s just when you begin to establish a ‘new normal’. For me, it wasn’t until I started stringing 6+ days together that I stopped thinking about it regularly, with the added bonus of reduced tolerance so I’m comfortable with 1-3 drinks instead of ‘ok might as well keep going’.
Obviously if you are a full blown alcoholic then this doesn’t apply to you, but my situation was more a mix of boredom and self medication for a particularly stressful period of my life. I was using alcohol as a Time Machine to fast forward through rough patches instead of having a full blown addiction.
By the grace of god or the universe I’ll maintain this new relationship with alcohol. My point being that, for people like me, 2-3 dry days at a time wasn’t enough to establish a new normal…instead that was right on the edge between maintaining the habit and building a ‘new normal’…aka it was torturous.
Try longer, and if you legit can’t…take a hard look at help. To be fair it took me many tries to get there during my dark days…don’t be too hard on yourself.
On a side note, my hardest drinking friend made it all of six days for dry January. I have tried to get her to try 2 drinks then switch to a THC gummy (gentle buzz and I want nothing to do with alcohol when high), instead she just takes the gummy and keeps drinking = beyond wasted.