So a few hours ago I received a text from a friend's wife. He got back from rehab about a month ago for the booze. His "recovery" has not gone well. He's relapsed four times and is now completely off the deep end. Been drinking morning, noon and night for four days straight as part of this particular relapse. According to wife, he's completely delusional. His arrogance and superiority complex is in full swing. He thinks he's better and smarter than everyone in his counseling and AA group. He's driving around drunk doing who knows what (that is a chief concern of hers). he won't listen to wife or immediate family (parents and siblings). Everyone's an asshole and he's the victim. He and his wife have two young kids. He's admitted he's an "addict" but his wife gets the sense that he thinks he can get his drinking under control. He's an artist by trade so he doesn't really have a "job" he can lose.
In about an hour, assuming he comes home from the lunch he's at with a friend (not supposed to be drinking but probably will be drinking vodka in his car), his wife is going to tell him that he has to move out and he either commit to a 90-day recovery (previous 30-day stint obviously didn't take) or he's gotta find another place to be because he's creating a toxic environment for his wife and kids. I used to be on a bowling team with this guy. That's how I know him. We would also go see rock shows together occasionally. She's asked me and two of our former bowling teammates to be there either before to tell him that we love him and care about his successful recovery. Or to be there after to support her and deliver the same message. She even said "i'll say what I have to say in front of y'all." I think she should talk to him first and then we come in as support. She said she doesn't want this to feel like an intervention, but it sure as shit feels like one to me.
I'm "pretty good" friends with this guy, but he's hardly in my inner circle. But I get the sense that he doesn't have a lot of friends and we might be his "best friends" in Austin. I actually haven't seen him since he got back from rehab a month ago. Texted when he got back and he said it was "a very good experience" and that's it. I thought I was giving him space to live a sober life and work on his recovery, but in hindsight I should have been more involved. But like I said, I didn't really see myself in his inner circle. Regardless, not sure that me having coffee with him every other week was going to prevent this. But who knows.
One of the issues I foresee is I like to indulge in beers and bourbon myself. And he might try to pull the "who the hell are you to tell me I have a problem?!" shit. Any suggestions on how to be prepared for this meeting I have in 45 minutes?