Let's not sit here and pretend that choosing A&M over Texas is some drastic misstep as far as paths to success go. They're both very good schools, and the difference is fairly negligible to anyone outside of supporters of the two. I will say that the culture at A&M is not something I would want for my kid. But it seems like the progressive nature of Gen Z would have to be improving that for the better (no where to go but up).
I've always supported/had a great relationship with both my daughter (and my wife), so she has no daddy issues or need to do stupid shit to please me. But she's only a freshman so we're early in the process. She really has no idea where she wants to go yet (outside of her dream of playing soccer somewhere in southern Cali). But as we get more into it I'll certainly offer my thoughts and advice, point out pros/cons she may not see, all of that. But I can't see a choice she would make where I'd put my foot down and give an ultimatum, outside of telling her she can't do something because the cost makes it logistically impossible.