They certainly are talking past each other, but not in the way you think.
Yes, and the problem lies within the party that perpetually gets them wrong. If you find fault in people who insist on remaining loyal to actual definitions of terms, you're going at things ass backwards. What the "BAN CRT!" crowd is absolutely guilty of is invoking what's known as a strawman fallacy. It's a logical error that merits no serious consideration by serious people.
I don't disqualify what they say merely because they're using a grotesquely false definition of the term; I disqualify what they say because their whines and complaints are completely meritless, not to mention dishonest. They assert baseless speculation as though it were a matter of fact, which means they are lying.
Then why are they using the term and what is it that they're talking about? Why do they not give a clear and concise summary of their issue in lieu of falsely labeling it as "CRT?" Why do they avoid doing that like a vampire avoids garlic?
I'm going to give you an anachronistic analogy to try as best I can to sincerely help you with this:
In my bookshelf, there's a book called Run and Shoot Football: Offense of the Future. It was written in 1965 by the architect of the scheme, one Glenn "Tiger" Ellison. Without getting into the specifics of its history, let's just look at how that term is used today. When football fans hear the phrase "Run-and-Shoot," they immediately think of Mouse Davis, Barry Sanders, Warren Moon, Andre Ware, John Jenkins, etc. There couldn't be a more faulty association between those men and that scheme because that's not the 'Shoot. Those men trace all the way back to Mouse Davis, but in its earliest days, Mouse Davis called his offense the Double Slot with Motion. Why is it then called the Run-and-Shoot? Well because some people on this planet are sensationalist, lying assholes and one of those assholes happened to be a reporter for The Oregonian named Dwight Jaynes. When Davis told him he was inspired by that same book that's on my shelf, Jaynes repeatedly insisted on using the book's title to label Davis' offense, over Davis' objections, in every article he was writing about Portland State. Why? Because it, according to him, "sounded sexier than Double Slot with Motion." Over the years, that shit became doctrine and dogma and that's why you have the false association.
Who the fuck was Dwight Jaynes to just arbitrarily decide he was going to unilaterally change the lexicon of offensive strategies for his own selfish purposes?
Now let's go back to CRT: Who the fuck are these people to just arbitrarily decide they're going to change academic lingo for their own selfish purposes? Seriously, who are these people? I mentioned this either on this thread or a different one a while back, but one of them was a very poorly dressed bum-looking person who spent an entire afternoon at the end of the western median dividing the eastbound and westbound lanes of Mockingbird at the 75 intersection holding up a sign that says "BAN TEACHING CRITICAL RACE THEORY AT HPISD!!!"
That stupid asshole has no idea what CRT is, HPISD does not teach it, and yet he and people like him get to insist that the term's definition changes because...what, they want it to? That's not good enough, especially when you consider that if they took a class on CRT at a law school, the overwhelming majority of them would fail rather spectacularly. They pretend to be experts/authorities on the subject, which is a paradigmatic example of Dunning Kruger gone amok.
What worldview of theirs is being challenged in public schools?
If your identity, worldview and social capital are inextricably linked to racism, racist attitudes, bigotry, bigoted attitudes, etc, you haven't a worldview worthy of consideration. Period. If you want to come here whining and bitching about how people are "talking past each other, not hearing each other," perhaps you should start with the people bitching about CRT when they haven't the foggiest idea what CRT is, or even what they're actually mad about.