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  1. My brother in law did this once. He was wearing Crocs (LOL) and he said his shoe got stuck around the pedal somewhere and he drove into the front of a Payless shoe store. Nobody was hurt but he was mortified. The worst part for him was a few weeks later, he went to the dry cleaner next door to the Payless to pick up his clothes and a couple of employees recognized him. "Hey, you're the guy that crashed into the Payless!"; he quickly denied this and left. He went home and told my sister, "Fuck, I have to find a new dry cleaner now. I can't go back there again!". 

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  2. 1 hour ago, Cheeseweasel said:

    She's causing the "near wrecks".

    Nah, I drive with her all the time and she's fine. She's just a drama queen. Raining outside? It's a "torrential downpour!". Windy out there? "The wind is INSANE!". Guy driving really fast on the interstate? "OMG that guy is a FREAK! He almost hit someone!". I tease her all the time about her "script", she won't even deny it.

  3. My wife often calls me on her way home from work to discuss our dinner options. It's amazing how many "near wrecks" she sees on the highway, or how many times she has had to avoid an accident. Strangely, all of these terrible drivers seem to stay home whenever I happen to be driving us somewhere. It's almost like she's being overdramatic, but that would be ridiculous.

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  4. On 2/8/2023 at 9:45 AM, SilasCoade said:

    she does a Mia Khalifa impression

    Do you watch her when she's banging the black guys or do you give her some privacy? /s

    But I agree, somewhat. I choose my battles. I don't care how she decorates the house or if she takes her mom shopping. But I reserve the right to make fun of her when she says something dumb. 

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  5. My MIL's cousin called her the other day. Told her he's got 3-6 months to live, he's in his early-mid 70s. He's got melanoma and can't do any chemo/radiation due to his heart condition. He and his wife have an adult son (40s) with special needs. They're trying to find him a home, as his mother will not be able to care for him on her own. My MIL is pretty torn up about it. Only met him a few times, seemed like a nice guy. 

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  6. My kid came by last night to pick up some mail and shoot the shit. It was nice. But the best part was when she called over the dog so she could pet him and he didn't really pay her much attention. She said (not very seriously) "Why are you being so distant??" and he just looked away. I laughed internally and said "Ah, I'm not the only one!". We had a great visit and I look forward to the next one.

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  7. 4 hours ago, Gatorubet said:

    This post is in no way meant in a negative way

    No negativity taken, sir. I've been in therapy a few times and it was great, I wish I had the time (and money) to go every week. 

    I don't feel like my relationship with my kids is damaged at all, or that they're acting in an unreasonable manner. Funnily enough, I just got a "Hey, thinking of you" text from one of them. Pretty cool.

    I think it boils down to I'm just scared of the unknown and maybe I'm trying to latch onto those things that are most familiar, like having my children around 24/7. But they had to grow up and leave at some point, why not now? I'll get over it in time. Reading the posts in this thread (and venting) has and will continue to help me. So, thanks for that.

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  8. 16 hours ago, cactusflinthead said:

    Try to not take it personally. There's a greater than zero chance they have shit going on and just didn't respond. 

    Being available later is better than nothing at all. 

    And don't beat yourself up for getting yourself something cool. It serves no purpose. Unless you told someone besides us, you're the only one that is really going to know. You made it clear they are welcome to come by. That's enough. You did what you are supposed to do. Feeling guilty about a nifty new whatever isn't going to make them call you. 

    Just keep being available. 

     

    I think my issues (and I 100% accept that these issues are mine, and no fault of my children) stem from my upbringing. I was a military brat and didn't grow up around family, at all. Never spent time with grandparents, uncles, cousins. Only met my maternal grandparents 5 times, I think. Later, my older sister got married and left when I was 15. I never learned how to make familial connections, or maybe I just thought that you don't get close to people, as they'll be gone soon enough. So I find myself teetering between being bothered that I don't have as much contact with my kids as I would like, or being fine with moving on in my life without thinking much about them. 

    Being a grandparent is not something I feel good about, either. I never had a "real" grandfather. My dad's dad died before I was born. My mom's dad just wasn't interested. I don't know how that relationship is supposed to work. My instinct is to just not get involved. I feel a lot of pressure to do things "the right way" but I honestly don't know what the right thing is. Just thinking about it makes me want to just walk out the door and drive away to parts unknown. Why???

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  9. I know this is going to sound very "Cats in the Cradle", but here we go:

    My kids are 21 and have both moved out. One of them (stupidly IMO) ran off and got married and is having a kid. I don't approve for many reasons but there's nothing I can do. I haven't cut her off or anything like that. SHe's always welcome at the house, I still ask if she needs anything when we run to Costco or Sam's. My other kid is doing fine, and I treat her the same way. But I feel a huge disconnect between us. They haven't done anything "wrong", like something that has ruined our relationship. But I find myself pulling away, more and more each day. They don't communicate well, that doesn't help. Takes days from them to respond to a call or text. I don't want to be up in their business all the time, just don't text me 2 days later if I ask you to come by and get your new insurance card. 

    I feel guilty when I do things for myself, like buy myself something cool, or go somewhere fun, when I know they don't have a lot of disposable income. But I didn't force them to move out! They wanted to do it, I said you might want to think harder about this, you know you can live here for free, but they left anyway. They don't come to me for money at all but I still feel like they think I'm throwing shit in their face. "Dad's a jerk, buys himself stuff while I suffer!", that's what I worry that they might think. And I can't be a part of that, I pull away. Maybe I subconsciously feel like them moving out means that they don't want anything to do with me anymore? Like I have to distance myself as a petty revenge? 

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  10. When we had the big freeze early last year, we borrowed a small space heater from my MIL to thaw out our pipes. I never thought I'd need it again, as we live in OK and it doesn't get that cold here. Well, the water heater needed thawed last month and we borrowed it again. I like this heater because it's small (under a foot high) and fits in the area below the water heater, right where it needs to be to thaw the pipes. My wife has been bugging me to get one for ourselves, and said she found one on amazon that she liked, so I said go for it. 

    This fucking thing is more than twice as tall as her mom's heater and won't fit in ANY of the places where we've used the small one. I asked why she picked this one and she said "It's cool, you can use it as a heater OR a fan!". It's going to freeze again on monday and guess who's probably gonna be borrowing a space heater?

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  11. 52 minutes ago, 'stache said:

    I'm cool with it. There are maybe 10-15 P5 DCs who are consistently top 10 or 15 in defense year to year. Outside of them, which OKST isn't going to get, there will be lot of arguments for mediocrity. I'm okay with identifying young up and comers, and I've read good things about this guy, and he's highly regarded as an up and comer. Promoting Joe Bob Clement and Tim Duffie hedges in case the new guy isn't up to the task, and he'll be easy to fire if needed since he's an outsider. Also

    YARN | so, it's time for the Nard-Dog | The Office (2005) - S06E09 Double  Date | Video clips by quotes | 0a2efb44 | 紗

    Yeah, you're right. But I wasn't on board with the Knowles hire, so I obviously know my shit. /s

  12. I'm this way with Indiana basketball. Born into it, had it ingrained in my head since I was 5-6 years old. We were overseas, so I never got to see the '76 & '81 teams win it all but got to see it in '87. Now? Haven't won it in 35 years, haven't seen a final four in 20. I'd love to see another title with my dad before he's gone but he's 75 and not that healthy. It sucks.

  13. I drove F150s for a few years because I'm very tall and wanted as much room as I could get. I don't fit in most sedans or smaller trucks/SUVs, mostly because of the sunroof taking up all the headroom. I have never towed anything and only used the bed 3-4 times. My 2016 F150 Lariat was the nicest, roomiest vehicle I've ever had. Perfect for roadtrips. But for my daily commute, I would struggle to get 17 MPG, even though I had the ecoboost. Parking sucked, too. I also wanted more of the safety features my wife had on her Mustang. 

    I've loved hot hatches since seeing the civic hatches in the early-mid 90s but I couldn't find one that fit me. But last year I got a new VW GTI. Base model, but I have every safety feature I wanted. Plenty of legroom and, because there's no sunroof, plenty of headroom. The hatch is just fine for Costco runs or anything else we do. Getting in and out is a pain but I get almost 40 MPG, so who fucking cares? Parking is a breeze. As long as I can fit in these, I'll keep buying them.

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