First off - it’s not hopeless. Second - don’t beat him. He is different and you gotta figure out how. There is something missing, not clicking or not developed yet that makes traditional school a really bad fit. My son was suspended 4 or 5 times in first grade (which is illegal in Texas by the way). He shut down his classroom multiple times. He was scared, angry and a massive ball of anxiety. His teacher was not equipped to deal with or even understand him. He was not violent until he was touched - then he just tried to do anything to get away. He was then moved to Special Education - the Behavioral Support Services program with an AMAZING teacher at the end of 1st grade. He was in a room with 9 kids - 1st - 5th grade and those kids were like family. They would get into it with each other, but no one messed with my kid. They looked after him. 2nd grade and this teacher were a MASSIVE improvement - minus one para and the administration trying to short my kid opportunities to take bench mark tests. He got his testing in and was in the top 5% of the school. 3rd grade - Fort Bend ISD had the bright idea to move him. Complete and total shit show. My son was assaulted by his sped teacher, not taught ANYTHING from August till Thanksgiving, scratched by a para, insulted by other teachers and generally just treated poorly. FBISD removed the sped teacher and replaced him with his 2nd grade teacher. They thanked us for not suing. We got 40 hours of compensatory services (one of his friends got 200). COVID hits and we go OnLine. My kid is a straight A kid. He has massive blowups at home with me. We work through them - OVER AND OVER AND OVER…. We’ve kept him in online school - Connections Academy. Last year, 6th grade, he had one melt down. I am fortunate to be able to work from home. We have worked hard to find a balance and to understand each other. He really processes things in a different way. He’s still killing it in the grades and bench mark testing. I say all of this to maybe give you a little hope that it’s gonna be ok. Through all of the insanity, the other kids were always really cool and nice to my kid. Kids were and are just drawn to him. It’s crazy to see. Feel free to message me any time.