Mental illness and chronic depression are results of a chemical imbalance. How people treat you can enhance these pre-existing factors, but they are not the root cause. If you believe they are, then tell me a solution. A trans person living today will never see complete acceptance in society the same way that a black guy will wonder if a comment was made due to his skin color. You don't learn mental illness nor do you get rid of it. It can only be treated to a reasonable degree. One of the many reasons I treat trans people with respect, save our resident narcissist, as I've proclaimed many times. Me calling you a "she" and treating you with respect is all I'm willing to go on that journey. My inability to placate a trans woman on how brave she is and pretend that she isn't a man with a penis and a dress is intellectually dishonest, which is why I don't do it. In the 5 years I have had trans friends, this discussion hasn't come up once. Why? Because my personally held view is irrelevant to their worth as a human being and certainly not something I would offer freely out of politeness. Same reason I have gay friends but no desire to ask them if they are a bottom or a top. There's more to people than their sexuality.