I recently told my daughter my own move-in story.
I'm the oldest, so the first kid my parents sent to college. They moved me into my cramped freshman dorm, my mom made my bed and helped unpack a few things, and then I recall they just left. No lunch, no stroll around campus. We parted at the elevator on my floor with a quick hug, and they were gone. I really didn't think much of it. My parents lived about 2.5 hours away, and I knew I'd see them on Labor Day weekend. Big deal, I'm in college now, and we were all looking forward to this day.
So a few minutes after my parents left I decide to take a walk around campus and find a bite to eat. I see a couple about my parents age, and they're walking away from a dorm with a thousand-yard stare holding hands, and they both have tears streaming down their cheeks. Even the dad looked he was doing everything to keep it together. And I think to myself, "Oh shit, that was my parents."
When I leave my daughter, I don't expect a prolonged good bye with a lot of parting wisdom. I already gave her my dump of fatherly advice and heavy discussion when I took her for a final father-daughter lunch last Saturday. And I told her that I'd be in Eugene all Friday after I move her in early that morning, and am available if she wanted to grab dinner, but I also respected the idea that it might be best to rip off the band aid and let her hang out with her new roommates or some of her high school friends who are also starting at UO. She opted for the latter, and I told her that I was perfectly okay with that.
But fucking A, I've had a growing feeling of sadness this week, not just because she's going far away to college, but because in a very real sense, she's leaving me forever. She'll be back, of course, but never in the same way. It feels a little like a heartbreak.