Husband of perimenopausal wife reporting for duty.
As reported in the Longevity thread, my wife hit perimenopause almost to years ago seemingly at the exact moment she durned 50. She's always had a tough time sleeping since the hormonal change from having kids, but now the sleep trouble is turned up to 11. I guess it's good that she's used to little sleep for the past 10 years or so because she's used to powering through and it's not affecting her emotionally.
Her other main symptom right now is weight gain. She works out a ton -- lots of walking but also a good weight training routine -- and for the most part maintains a healthy diet of high protein and fiber, healthy carbs, low sugars and processed foods, and lots of greens. And she takes all of the supplements. But she's still put on some weigh in her belly area. Not a ton, but definitely noticeable and way more than she's ever had and is comfortable with.
The hard part for me right now is constantly hearing her say how "fat" she is. I use the term in quotes because she's not fat or obese, certainly not by my standards and most clinical ones. But on a daily basis I hear her complain that she's fat, that her clothes don't fit, that none of the dietary adjustments are working, that she won't be able to find any dress for our next formal event, etc. I try to respond by saying that she looks great, I find her body wildly attractive, she'll definitely find a beautiful dress she looks great in, etc. But she just blows all that off. I should be used to all that by now and not take it so hard, but it's sort of starting to weigh me down. I know that it absolutely shouldn't, and I just need to keep reassuring her that I love her body even if I get nothing in response.
For now, the weight gain and her body image hasn't affected her sex drive, which is still vibrant, and her mood swings are slight and infrequent.
I need to keep telling myself to practice empathy and patience, and continue telling her how much I love her and am attracted to her, and how this is our life together for the next several years.
Edit: And odd that this thread is in Lulz, and not Help.