So last night I was sat down by the GF as she was concerned about my alcohol consumption. This is the second time we've had a conversation about this and after the first I substantially changed my drinking habits. Previously I was drinking a whole 1.75L bottle of liquor per week. I significantly stopped that by reducing the amount of times that have a drink during the weekdays, now my consumption is about a 750mL bottle per week. I am drinking a bit on the weekdays again now and this equates to about 2-4 drinks 5 nights a week and usually over the course of 3-5 hours per night.
My girlfriend is what I would classify as not a drinker, she rarely will have more than a glass of wine a couple of times a week. She has expressed concerns about alcohol use due to behavior she has witnessed by her mother as she was growing up.
I have a different background, both of my parents drink, everyone in my family did the greek system in college, and I am often traveling for work with sales and customers which results in often entertaining each other with alcohol during and after dinners. My mother has been to rehab for alcohol and mental health issues and during these stints I have participated in family counseling sessions and am very aware of the destruction that can occur due to substance abuse.
My girlfriend's concerns are that my regular drinking is the start of a downward spiral that will eventually result in health issues, liver failure, cancer, etc. I have no history of destructive behavior towards her or any close people when I drink and she has agreed with that statement. I have only been shitfaced drunk around her a few times in the past 1.5 years.
She has concerns that I am using alcohol to boost my spirits and gets upset that when I come home with booze that I generally am in a better mood than on nights that I know I will not be drinking. I said that this was because I enjoy having a couple of drinks and I find it enjoyable and relaxing. I am not missing work or not keeping up with any obligations with this quantity that I am consuming. Generally I will drink while playing video games creating music or watching a movie.
I don't really know how to feel. I don't personally believe that my drinking is a problem or is particularly extreme, yet I am being confronted and clearly am offending her by participating in this. I do feel sort of judged by someone who is very straight-laced. She doesn't approve of really any vices.
I am trying to stay low carb so I am drinking liquor rather than beers, and I feel like this exacerbates the negative perception.
Am I in denial about how extreme my drinking is? I am surprised that I am being confronted after significantly reducing my consumption by so much and when there is no destructive behavior also being included with it.