Biggest piece of advice I’d give to any parent having these talks with their kids is to stay as far away as possible from any fights. You see a fight, or shit ramping up to a fight, you get the fuck out. You don’t start recording with your phones. At this point there has to be a double digit % chance that someone will pull a weapon.
Also, be a snitch. You see a kid being bullied, you tell someone. You hear about a fight after school, snitch that shit out. Parents, help them be a snitch. Follow up with a call to the admin about someone getting bullied. Get the shit on their radar. If the kid is worried about being outed as a snitch have them text you and then you call that shit in. I would love for kids to figure out how to process and navigate conflict and hostility, but these days it’s likely going to end with blood, so fuck that. You snitch, because the alternative is someone getting shot.
I would also stay the hell away from a SRO at all times. If a shooter wants to inflict maximum damage he’s taking that guy down first.