Look, I'm sure she's acted snotty to someone at some point but using the Sun as your source of evidence for proving someone's character is ridiculous. Of course every tabloid out there is going to make drama. "Harry's wife is amazing!" is not a headline that sells.
Besides all this, most of y'all are acting like this whole thing was Meghan's idea when even a cursory glance through the tubes shows that Harry has never been completely on board with living the life of a royal. He didn't ask for it, and for everyone's comments about how she needs to deal because she knew what she was getting into, Harry didn't. The heir and the spare, and all that. Being with an American gives him a perfect excuse to back out of some of the limelight.
I don't know, I just can't get up in arms about someone wanting to do their own thing and leave the family business. And to that point, to those saying you can't be a duke part-time, it would be SO MUCH WORSE if they actually gave up their titles. Ever since Diana, the British monarchy has been slowly moving away from tradition. This whole thing looks to me like another example of that.