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"Try SCE to AUX." Really great writeup of that story here.

I was really sad to hear this. I met him back in the early aughts when I did PR for the UT College of Engineering. He was an advisory council member and I schmoozed with him and some of the other members (as an aside, Rex Tillerson was one, too) and we talked about his life at NASA, but honestly, more about his painting. He was such a great guy. The CoE has some amazing alumni.

Well, it's not a REAL rodent, so.... Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

This mofo has gotten lazy over the years. He used to stand at the door till we let him out. Now, if we don't get there fast enough, he just lets out one of those dog sighs and lays here and stares at us till we take pity on him. Mind you, he has enough energy to bark nonstop at the guy replacing the neighbors' upstairs windows. Priorities. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

I will say that at least we know they're coming a few days out. Tornadoes scare the shit out of me especially considering we don't have basements. I assumed he was joking with the Ireland reference. Are you kidding me? My parents are moving their RV up to Crystal in a couple of weeks - they leave it there all summer. I'm still surprised it has never gotten much damage these last few years.

Surprised? No. Were my hopes dashed yet again that he could use this opportunity to say something not moronic? Yes.

It was delicious. I have not been to 99 Ranch - I'll definitely check it out.

Plated up. Pork belly, roasted pork, fresh lo mein, broth, nori, fresh peas, and a slow-poached egg. Well worth the effort. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Fucking Dan Patrick.

Making roux is way more hands-on than making ramen broth. With roux you're stirring the whole time and if it burns you have to start over. Pho is a bit more work than ramen because the broth needs to be skimmed and strained so that it's clear. Ramen can be cloudy, so that right there eliminates the constant skimming while it cooks. If you're home all day, it's cake. You're just adding and removing different components to the pot as you go along.

Haven't read this whole thing. My college roommate's dad was the mayor of Santa Fe back in the late 90s-early aughts. Spent some time there with her. It's a sweet little town close to the Gulf, much like where I grew up. I'm so sad and tired of all this. I don't know what the answer is. I don't know what will fix it. I just know that whatever fixes it will be change. Something different from what we're doing/not doing now. I know this because we have yet to do anything that has helped. It's getting worse, not better. I'm sad and tired and sick that sending my kids to school and my husband to work makes me nervous. As someone who has lived with depression for almost the last decade, and who has several family members being treated for it as well, I can say from experience (as can many of you) that treating mental health is terribly complex and treatment success varies wildly among individuals. Because of this, it seems like limiting access to firearms, or certain kinds of firearms, has a much better chance of bringing down the number of mass shootings in the short term. But what the fuck do I know. My love to everyone in Santa Fe.

Pork belly out of the oven. Once it's cooled a bit I'll wrap and chill it for easier slicing later. I'll save the rendered fat for other stuff later. I added a spoonful to the dog's food bowl and now he's looking at me like I'm the second coming of Jesus. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Ohhhhh I did not know that. Thanks! Above is the dragon fruit. Pork belly rubbed down and ready to sit overnight. Pork butt ready for slow roasting this morning. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Also picked up some dragon fruit for dessert. Just scraped it out of the shell. Soooo good. Would've posted a pic but imgur is getting on my fucking nerves right now.

I love pho, ramen, basically any type of Asian noodle soup. I went through a pho phase a while back and worked on my broth recipe until it was perfect and I could freeze a bunch for pho whenever I got a hankering for it. Once the broth is done it's just a matter if pulling together the toppings and voila, you have a tasty bowl of comfort food I prefer over chicken noodle soup any day. I visited Momofuku Noodle Bar years ago (in NYC), and got the cookbook last Christmas. It wasn't until now that I thought I'd tackle making my own ramen the David Chang way. (Except the noodles. I may be a glutton for punishment when it comes to cooking complex shit, but I do not have it in me to make my own noodles at this point.) So, this afternoon, I went to the new HMart in NW Austin, stocked up on everything I needed and began working on the broth around 2 pm. First, put two sheets of dried kombu into a stockpot filled with 6 quarts of water. When it comes to a boil, turn off the heat and let the kombu steep for 15 minutes. Remove the kombu and add 2 cups dried shiitakes. Bring it back to a boil, then simmer gently for 30 minutes. Remove and reserve for another use. I sliced up the kombu to add to salads and am going to pickle the shiitakes. I did not think to start taking pics until after this point, so here are the shiitakes and kombu after doing their thing in the broth. Next up, I cut the backbone out of a chicken and cut the rest of it into 6 pieces (left in the wings for my purposes). Saved the backbone to make tare' with later. Added the chicken and let it simmer about an hour. When the chicken was falling off the bone, I removed it and set on a carving board to rest till I could pick the meat off the bones. The chicken bones went to hang out with their brethren, the uncooked backbone, and wait for the tare' to get started. As the chicken was simmering, I heated the oven to 400 and loaded up a baking sheet with 5 lbs meaty pork bones - I did a mix of neck and back bones. Roasted those suckers for an hour, till they were a lovely brown. Roasted bones went in next, along with 1 lb bacon. Bacon simmered for about 45 minutes, and I left everything else to simmere for ~6 hours, maybe? About an hour till the end, I added a bunch of green onions, chopped carrot, and two onions, halved but not peeled (onion skins give the broth a great color). I'll pull it off heat in about 30 minutes, strain, and season with tare (like japanese bbq sauce; a mix of mirin, sake, soy sauce, all cooked with roasted chicken bones.) Tomorrow I'll work on the pork belly and pork shoulder for toppings, while the broth waits in the fridge. Will post more pics then.

I really appreciate this. I know we disagree on a lot but the discussion here has been great. I'm not sure if you're serious about knowing it was you, but yes, you can click on the green or red number in the bottom right corner of a post and see who all likes or dislikes it. You should also get notified if someone reacts to your post or quotes you, and the notification panel shows you who is reacting. Anyway, I'm genuinely curious as to what you found to be high-horsey and/or anti-male. I've been married to a guy for 15 years and am raising two boys. I, as I'm sure is the case with most everyone here, have a lot vested in working through these issues, and have found the conversation in this thread to be very insightful.

Shmitty, are you going to provide any context to why you're negging everything I post?

Yeah, I'm cringing just imagining accepting a drink from someone and then ignoring them. It's just ...mean. This is spot on. Last night Animal House was on, and I'd forgotten about the scene where Amadeus is making out with the girl from the grocery store and she passes out, and the devil on his shoulder is telling him to fuck her because she wanted it anyway. He doesn't, but God. Because those aren't the top of the priority list for many (maybe most) women. So what if you have a job and don't look like a goblin? It doesn't mean shit if you're an asshole, and it's usually not hard to figure out if that's the case.

Bite your tongue, sir. When y'all are talking about transactional sex, do you mean while in the dating world? Or also when people are in committed relationships? In some situations I think it could accurately be considered a transaction. But still, "transactional" implies that the individual parties agreed upon the terms before closing the deal. That doesn't happen all the time, especially if you're getting to know one another. If I go out on a date with you, and let you buy me drinks and dinner, and by the end of the night find you to be a pig, I don't owe you sex or a kiss or anything. I appreciate your generosity, but no, I don't owe you shit just because you paid for my meal. It's more of a gamble than a transaction. On both sides.

Sure, but a preschooler can't easily discern that. They have time to learn the nuances of interacting with women. (Well, as much as one can.) For now I just want to get across that no means no.

I get it. I think the safest path is to not default to aggression at the outset. Sure, some women enjoy it, and you can probably read body language and whatnot to see if that's their thing. Of course, some women send mixed signals. Or send the wrong signals, just to be an asshole. You (the general you) can't help if you wrongly interpret what someone is thinking. You should be able to tell, though, when someone is truly telling you to stop. I don't envy anyone (man or woman) in the dating world these days, that's for sure.

No shit. It has all the keywords, too: chicks, witch hunt, rape culture myth.

But no one thinks all men want to rape women. At least no one in this thread. That's not what rape culture means. Honestly, I don't love the term either because yeah, there is definitely a spectrum of harassment severity and rape is one point at the far end of it. The idea is to address the false sense of entitlement embodied to an extreme extent by these incel idiots. And really, a lot of older women don't help anything. I was talking to someone my mom's age recently about this kind of thing (I'm 36, for reference) and she said something along the lines of "Oh, sure, sometimes you may get a slap on the ass but that's just how some guys are. You can't get up in arms about it." Well...I disagree. If you don't care if someone slaps your ass without invitation, that's your prerogative. But women as a whole should not be told that it's something they need to just deal with, nor should they be afraid to call someone out on it. And this sentiment isn't unique to the woman I was talking with - I don't know how many times I've heard some version of "boys will be boys." Boys are capable of not being assholes. Like anyone of any gender, they just have to be taught what that means, not be let off the hook because of some lame excuse about not being able to overcome their base urges or some shit like that.

She's who we're having this conversation for. I guarantee that 99% of the women you know have examples like those in the article, if not that extreme, but maybe we can lower that number for the next generation. I have two boys and have always worked to get it across to them that if anyone tells you to not touch them, to stop touching them, to get out of their space, etc, you immediately stop. No questions asked. My youngest likes holding hands, giving hugs, and so on, and it's a good teaching opportunity when a friend doesn't want to. I'm sure there's more we could do, but I think it's helping for now.

If your problem is the term then you could try suggesting something else and attempt to positively contribute to the conversation. But I suspect that the root of it is that you just don't think rape culture (or whatever you want to call it) is actually a thing.