I really don't have much holiday drama. My 70 y/o BIL will get his feelings hurt about some slight he feels we said, but he just gets on his phone and pouts like a 6 year old. It shuts him up so everything is fine. But I have a question from the families that have narcissist members.
I have a friend whose father just passed away. I know deaths can cause drama, but his oldest sister has gone above and beyond anything I have ever heard. No need to go into details but she showed him up, slapped him down and did everything she could to make herself the center of attention at every occasion. She verbally attacked him, his wife, nieces and nephews and then claimed victimhood when they pushed back.
I'm trying to help him through it all because he has trouble standing up to his sister after 60+ years of abuse. I told him to tell her to get screwed but I don't think he can do it. There's a 7 or 8 figure inheritance and trust involved, so he just can't walk away. My question is; why the hell do narcistic people cause such obvious chaos? I know the center of attention angle, but she has gone out of her way to be mean, cruel and very stupid in dealing with situations and family. I'm an only child so none of this makes sense to me. She is going to screw it all up if he doesn't get it fixed and she's not smart enough to handle it herself. Any suggestion would be great. He's a good friend and I hate to see him die because of the stress.