Our lives are pretty hectic right now with three kids, all involved in shit. Every day we are running around town picking up and dropping off kids. It is really hard to keep it all straight and my wife and I have to check in with each other every morning about the day's events.
A couple of weeks ago we had planned to decorate our tree on a Saturday night. We had other plans throughout the day on Saturday. I called an audible for myself on Saturday morning and did something other than what I said I would do during our planning session. My change of plans affected nothing and no one. Later that day, my wife tells me that she allowed our son to go spend the night at his cousin's house. I got kinda pissed and told her, "But we were supposed to decorate the tree tonight as a family!" My son wanted to participate, so we couldn't just do it without him. Plus, we were already late getting to it and there was literally no other time to do it. So, to be clear, my wife's decision fucked up our plans and I got a little pissed about it. As these things go, somehow she got pissed at me. I asked her, "How is it that you fucked up, yet you are mad at me?" Her answer was that it was a double standard because I changed the plans earlier in the day. Yeah, but my change of plans didn't affect anyone else or cause us to not have time to do an important family activity. She completely did not agree or understand. I ended up just walking away and letting it all go.