Alright so.....
I've used this thread as a platform to complain about NOT getting laid but with the collection of glorious f'n bastards on teh surl maybe I can get steered in the direction TO getting laid.
I'm 45. I don't know where the time went either. I realized today that I have not actually dated in about 13-14 years. I went from one long term relationship to the next with women whom I met through mutual friends. When I was in my early 30's my range was absolutely golden ; I could date down into the 20's and as high as the mid 40's. Nowadays I'm putting the cap on the early 50's and probably low 30's so I've probably lost some ground.
Back then I was working farm and ranch and being isolated, had to go the online route. I got laid off of eHarmony, Match, and Plenty of Fish with just a little effort and met some great gals. Also, I set a good policy that when living in a small town I didn't hunt on the reservation unless I meet a unicorn (which never happened). If / when shit goes south, you can't get away from an ex in a small town. Recent events have me moving to a very small town once again and I intend to keep that same policy although I realize that my small pool just got even smaller.
I'm thinking I'll probably stick with the mate selection criteria I used back in my 30's assuming it'll still work.. mainly stuff like... does she have low self esteem, daddy issues, or dating for the first time in years after a divorce... and does she have a nice big butt. That tended to work out pretty well the last time. Meanwhile what didn't work the last time was being completely honest. I knew these gals were looking for a life mate but with my crippling self esteem issues, substance abuse, traumatic stress disorders, and the fact that I've never had a relationship last longer than 4 years... it means I knew they were never going to get what they wanted. Meanwhile I was just hoping they were a complete tramp in the sack until they finally figured out I was a waste of time, got angry with me, and pulled the plug. Which is how they just about all ended. The honest truth is I don't want to do that to a woman again and dash her hopes, so I'd rather just be able to come out and let them know that while I'm far from husband material and generally a fucking train wreck, I'm funny and fun to be with as we're flying off the mountain. I don't want to have to mislead or omit to get laid.. it's not fair to the woman.
Alright, so.... what am I looking at here? Tinder? That wasn't around the last time and I understand that's geared towards hooking up? Is that for the younger crowd? Plenty of fish was pleasantly trashy but also annoying. Do people still use that? I presume Match is still full of women with 2 kids or a ticking clock looking for a husband? As damaged goods with a few working parts left, where does one go?