Well yeah but now you're trapped in a conversation about Modest Mouse.
I think it's kind of interesting actually - to me, Modest Mouse is about 1 iteration away from the grunge era. Band of Horses falls into a different camp that I don't have as good of a handle on but it is much more of a.... My Morning Jacket, Tame Impala, even Mumford or Avett Bros early 2010s indie jam folk etc stuff. But also, I really don't have a ton of familiarity with Modest Mouse past Good News. The first thing that pops into my head when I think of that band is Lonesome Crowded West from 1997. Which I would describe as following the loud soft loud thing, where the loud has a lot of grungey/80s alternative influence and soft is downtempo bass with noise.
The pussy music thing is also interesting because... say we're talking about music from the 2000s/2010s, what do we even mean by pussy? Cutting yourself pussy or scarf wearing banjo pussy? Cause we had both, but they were different scenes entirely.