We’ve had sex a couple times since she’s healed up.
I guess I’m looking for us to be a team again…. Enjoy each other’s company. Desire one another. I know that sounds stupid. I still find her very attractive. But when I give compliments, look at her naked, tell her how nice she looks, she almost recoils in a way…. Like Im a perve… in fairness I am, but she used to like that I was attracted to her.
Overall I think I want to feel valued. I’d like her to look at me like she used to before I had my mental health issues and before I lost my job. I just feel like because I showed any vulnerability that I’ve now lost face some way that I can’t earn back. Even though I have a better and more stable job, lost weight, got healthier, and am no longer in a constant state of depression I’ve shattered her image of me.
For her, I truly do not know what she wants. And that’s on me to an extend. I try to talk to her but she usually shuts things down, says she’s tired, and then goes to bed. When I've brought up that the her job may be causing health and anxiety issues she becomes super defensive and dismissive.
Starting with some date nights / night away could be a good start.