Fair enough, I would have figured that part is self explanatory though, if for no other reason I wouldn't ever consider paying taxes as a transaction. Not to mention I get very immediate benefits from it like roads to drive on and schools for my son to attend.
But what we mean is helping out others as an act of kindness, as opposed to what's in it for us. Personally, 2016 shattered every idea I had about what this country was. I never considered America perfect, but the depths of our depravity and malice were never that exposed, and it seemed we were always working towards being better. But that went out the window in '16. Even so, I still clung to a small flicker of hope maybe it was an aberration, and Biden's win in 2020 restored probably 75% of my faith in the US. This, well, the flame is 100% out now. As I told my wife, I actually don't feel any anger or shock at all, I'm pretty serene. The truth is laid bare for all to see now, and I have completely accepted it. So if I know someone is a Trump voter, my interactions with them are going to be 100% transactional. If my Trump neighbor needs sugar, I'm not lending them any unless I get something from it. Which sounds heartless, and it is, because I'm not giving that part of myself anymore to people who don't deserve it.
I feel zero guilt about this. These people have chosen to break our country. The onus is on them to put it back together again.