Sorry ahead of time for the long post. But, I think you all can help and wanted to give you the details and I appreciate any thoughts and recommendations.
My sister, who is 53 and has been a problem child since about 13, has been messing with drugs and alcohol pretty heavy since 30 and is in a little more than a bit of trouble.
Married three times. Two kids with the first husband (that started at 17 due to a pregnancy). Third child was with the second husband.
Around 30 she got divorced from number 2 and went off the rails. Long story short, a lot of in and out of our lives due to starting drugs again, running out of resources and coming back for my family to clean everything up and get her back on track. She gets there and the same routine starts over and usually in a short period of time. I can’t count how many times this has happened.
After enough of this, two kids went to live with their dad (2nd husband had adopted them by now and the oldest was out of the house) in a completely different state.
More than a few more repetitions of the cycle and she gets clean with a lot of encouragement/support from my parents. Does really well for herself for a few years. She was very successful at what she was doing despite us having to buy her high school diploma. Tried to re-connect with her kids, etc. But, again, attracted the wrong people and started down the same road once she got on her feet. She developed some form of paranoia that people were coming to get her, stealing from her and tracking her every move. Ended up throwing away a very lucrative business.
Rehab again. Comes out, goes to a halfway house for about a year, comes out and tries to get her life back on track again. Same cycle started over. The lack of use of drugs and alcohol put on weight (she is very vain) so that started some form of speed which led to other things, etc.
This turned into a call a couple months ago from my dad saying she was recently placed in ICU for an overdose, left AMA, he found her, put her in a detox, she left there too and didn’t know where she was. About a week later she ended up in another 60 day rehab. She got out of there about a week ago and then gets in a car wreck while drunk (apparently she also takes 5 bottles a day of some weird herb that comes from some tree bark that I don’t know what it is).
So, now we are at today. My dad asked if we should do an intervention. I don’t think anyone in my family, including her kids, are interested. I also think it wouldn’t help, we have done this before, and if what she has gone through hasn’t woke her up, nothing will. I am also under the impression you can’t fix someone unless they want to be fixed.
My concern is that while she has a ton of people trying to collect from her from past bad decisions, now she has an actual real deadline for court that will result in her having to show up or face jail (which I think might actually help). I truly believe that she will now feel she won’t be able to come back from this family damage, financial obligations, legal issues and we aren’t far from my next call from my Dad that she is gone.
All that said and dumped on you, is there anything me or my dad can do?