OK, back from our first trip to Napa last week. We stayed 4 nights so had 3 full days of wineries plus a couple of travel days. I probably won't have much new to add since most spots we hit came from recs on this thread, but will share some thoughts as a first-timer and who really doesn't even drink wine very often.
Hotel Yountville was excellent. Being a special occasion we went for the premium suite. Big room and bathroom with rain shower and separate sex tub (not sure if it's called that in the brochure). Wife appreciated the separate makeup vanity. Private patio/garden to sit outside. Just nice touches throughout.
For wine we started after lunch and with 90min tastings and most closing at 4-5pm, you can really only do 2 in an afternoon. Pre-covid was it much more casual free for all where you could show up and drink and be on your way? Anway...
Barnett - There were 5 tastings on the menu and dude threw that away after the 2 whites. We ended up tasting 8 including a pinot, cab franc, merlot, and 3 cabs including the rattlesnake (which was not on the menu we originally got). This was our overall favorite and the Rattlesnake was my favorite. The Cab Franc (never heard of it before) was amazing as well although very different.
Odette was just a weird experience. We were the only one in the whole tasting room and our host was a bit odd. Wine was fine but preferred most of the Barnett we had just came from.
Quintessa - Check your hotel for partner deals. They booked this for us and the normal $160x2 was free. It included a tour through the fields in an all-terrain golf cart thing and chomp on some new growth grapes, etc followed by the tasting inside which included some cheese/fruit/nuts etc. Great experience and wines.
Round Pond - Nice patio for the tasting which included some wine food as well. Gave us almost a full glass to go to walk around the grounds and the garden that there on-site chef uses. Was a nice add-on and able to enjoy some different views.
Last day was sparkling day...Domain Carneros and Mumm. Pretty much the same experience at both of these where you can pretty much tailor your tastings. We preferred Mumm wines overall. Was a nice change of pace to all the cabs.
Bottega lived up to the hype. Excellent meal for our anniversary even though a little loud and crowded. Buchon on the other hand was loud as hell and tables way to close. Waiter was literally shouting to talk to us. Food was good though! Sticking to Yountville and wanting something more casual we tried La Calenda. Obviously Tex-mex it is not, but enjoyed some of what we had. Oakville Grocery is a great spot for lunch before wining.
Shit, this is probably the longest post I've ever had. Overall we had a blast and wife already wants to go back. Thanks all for the recs in this thread!