Luckily for my husband, I am enlightened on this matter. We laugh when my Mom pulls that shit. It’s not even worth calling her out on it because she’d be confused, hurt, and think we were making fun of her. No win there.
We are taught this shit by our mothers from birth. It’s generational. Your mother DID mean something else when she asked a direct question. It takes therapy to be untrained. It fucking sucks.
Does she do resistance training? A woman over 40 must include weight training as their primary workout routine for the most part. Cardio can actually make cortisol spike for women, which is its own set of issues. It’s worth asking because working out hard with no results sucks ass. I doubt 2 glasses of wine would have a greater impact.
Check the golf thread in hobbies. There's some exercise a dude was discussing that really helped. I was considering looking into it, but I'm too lazy to link the thread.
I settled on a Fireboard.
https://www.fireboard.com/shop/fireboard-2-drive/
Most of them work. I just like the functionality and nerdy graphs this one produces. I think it helps me dial things in. It's all about personal preference and how much you want to spend. Get your recs here though because we've probably tried it all.