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  1. I tried AA for the first time the year I turned 30. I hadn't lost nearly enough for it to stick. I didn't have desperation; I was way too willing to take it a la carte. I figured now that AA finally had somebody really smart doing its program, that person could sort of audit the thing and pick out the most important parts and just do those, to maximize efficiency and avoid uncomfortable stuff. 

    yeah that didn't work

    Meetings are important but being in and around the meeting is equally important. If you're just a face that's there from 11:59 til 1:01, you're not really in the herd. It might seem hard to strike up conversations, God knows I think so, but a simple "I liked what you shared" after a meeting is enough to start forging the kind of simple friendships that make the meetings comfortable and even enjoyable. 

    You will hear different things about sharing. Some people think newcomers should shut the fuck up and listen. That's partly true. I guess my advice would be, share often early on just so people know who you are and what you're going through. All your share has to be is how you're feeling that day. It doesn't have to illuminate anything about the program for anyone else, it doesn't have to generate applause or laughter or get you elected VP of AA because of its amazing insight. It took me a long time to learn that. Just sharing "I'm new, this kind of sucks" lets people know you're approachable. 

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  2. 14 hours ago, NoctambulantBrobdingnagian said:

    you seem to be sublimating 

     

    Swandered is being pretty passive aggressive, but he won't come out and say what he's thinking

     

    methinks phlegm was right

    in a passive aggressive post based on mind reading, you accused me of sublimating and being passive aggressive. Bravo. 

    and double bravo for getting me to respond; I know better but I'm doing it anyway. 

  3. 6 minutes ago, Js1 said:

    There sure are a lot of brand new posters within the last 3 months that seem to only post about coronavirus and BLM.  And they all seem to skew in one direction.

    Surly gettin' astroturfed. 

    that, or people are finally angry enough (and encouraged by the tolerance of politics on the football board slash the mantra of "WE MUST HAVE A DISCUSSION") to register and share their own emotional and uninformed opinion, just like they see everyone else doing

  4. Just now, MonkeyDoughnut said:

    Upside is if they let him go they will likely owe him alone more than 20MM

     

    the presumption is they're firing him for cause, so they don't owe him anything

    I really doubt they'd be able to win a case proving so, when Gundy sues, but the only way the hypothetical actually makes sense is if you assume the firing is for cause

    it's a pretty mean t-shirt, you never know 

  5. 1 minute ago, texifornia said:

    Based on the Twitter responses, especially from former players, the "grudge" seems to be related to Okie Lite having same issues as Iowa - the coaches constantly snapping at the black players with "I'll send you back to South Dallas" or telling them they look like "thugs" if they're not dressed a certain way, and not acting the same way towards the white players. The OAN shirt is just the cherry on top.

    Exactly up until "cherry on top"-- I think it's more like the pretext. But yes, Gundy pissed off some black players and blood is thicker than water, so this is their collective opportunity to exact revenge. 

  6. 1 hour ago, Nivek said:

    I don't consider it anything beyond a minimum effort on my part.  I suppose I also benefited financially from having removed some words from my lexicon, but that was not my motivation.   Lastly, I generally give people the benefit of the doubt and prescribe to a softer form of Hanlon's Razor, unless they demonstrate otherwise.

    you're talking a lot about yourself here. I don't know you, don't know anything about you. You say you stopped throwing the word "retard" around analogously to Tom Herman's loudly enlightened racial attitudes, in what I interpreted to be your attempt to say "see some people do change, I did".

    I mean, I don't really know what to tell you. I'm happy you're happy. If you think Herman's genuinely a racially woke social justice warrior down with the cause, that's fine. I personally wouldn't believe the guy if he told me he had orange juice in his fridge. In this specific case, where his $5m/yr salary is critically dependent on young black football players agreeing to come to UT and take instruction from him, and he thus has a vested financial and W-L interest in appearing as sympathetic as possible to their group racial dynamic, I really couldn't be any more skeptical of what he's saying publicly. 

    Good for him if his conscience and his public statements are truly in alignment. 

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