If my kid had to speak to other kids verbally over the phone or even text them he’d have no friends. They all talk with an app now, actual text messaging is for the olds. You can force your kid to communicate whichever way you like but if his friends are not communicating the same way you’re fucking his social life over quite a bit. If you don’t care about that that’s cool but I like my kids having a healthy active social life. It’s not a complete free-for-all, there are some limitations and expectations. The more they meet my expectations the fewer limitations I give them.
My kids both got phones when they hit middle school. I monitored them pretty thoroughly for the first couple years and gradually eased up on it. i’m sure they’ve seen more than a few tiddies on them and I’m sure they’ve had communications I wouldn’t approve of but, all in all, they are thriving and doing well in life. Good grades, hang out with a good group of kids that are going places, good manners, a few typical teenage fights now and then but nothing that lasts very long. I can’t remember the last time I looked at either of their phones.
I got into my share of mischief as a kid too. A certain amount of that is healthy for a teenager. How they’ll be able to manage that and how much rope you give your kid to hang themselves is something that only you can have an idea of. What’s right from my kid might be wrong for yours and what’s right for yours might be wrong for mine.