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BearSchlong

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  1. I could definitely live in Kure beach. Nice place.
  2. Omg that's a great pic. What my wife wishes she could say to my ex
  3. On a plane right now headed to family beach vacation with wife, both kids, son’s wife and her parents and brothers and their wives/fiance's. 12, 7 of whom are aggy. I've already done my recon and found 7am meetings in Wilmington NC which is where I'll visit while they sleep in. Sunday morning there is a sunrise meeting that supposedly is held on a gazebo on the beach overlooking the Atlantic. AA in TX is a small world; I was at a speaker meeting in Lewisville on Monday and ran into a few guys who were visiting that I've known since my first summer of sobriety, we actually serve on the board of our home conference and they were friends of my dad for 29 years til he died sober. And YGIFS genetics aren't an excuse but the modeled behavior carries weight. When I was a kid my dad was my hero, and as such I couldn't wait to get my very own 5pm tumblers full of ice and Dewar’s because in my impressionable mind that was completely normal behavior.
  4. Looks like a compromise, though. I assume they are veto proof.
  5. Wow, thank you for such a detailed reply. And for giving my wife a list of places to occupy her internet for a few days.
  6. Portland to Houston via Phoenix And yes I got a cold brew.
  7. I had credits to burn and a very expensive ticket (thanks, dynamic pricing!) so I flew LUV. It puts American back into perspective. I suspect 75% of these people have never sat in a wheelchair until today. And I really enjoyed the “no, your boarding pass doesn’t say medical pre-board, get your ass back in line and wait for me to call boarding group C” show from the WN agents.
  8. Having difficulty controlling and enjoying your drinking? I know that feeling. Pm me if you want, I’d love to chat about it. I land at 1 central and will have some drive time if you want to talk.
  9. Bump. Headed to Kure beach south of Wilmington for a big family vacation this weekend, mainly because it’s convenient for my son and his wife to meet us from Ft. Bragg. Any recommendations?
  10. Got there yesterday at 6:30am, had to clear my head before my nephew’s funeral. Had a brisk walk up which is impossible later in the day when it gets crowded. Between the funeral and the banquet, I drove my daughter around downtown and she people gawked. Also, edibles in Portland are about 20% of what they cost in Chicago. I don’t partake but I’m happy to take some home for my wife and her friends.
  11. Yeah you’re right, it’s harmless unless it becomes popular. Context: my grandfather, father, and uncle built 6000 homes from 1945-2009. They saw everything. From sleeping on rail cars of “their” lumber in the lumberyard siding in 1947 to 19.5% rates during the Volker stagflation. 2009 unable to get buyers financed at more than break-even prices, owned and lost an S&L in the early 80s. I really need to ask my 81 year old uncle what kinds of stuff they did over the years to get stuff sold.
  12. Unpopular opinion, and I promise I’m saying this in good faith and not as a criticism of people just trying to do business: holy shit, people are essentially rolling negative equity into mortgages even though rates haven’t eclipsed 7.5% What could possibly go wrong?
  13. Can the state compel my wife to agree to sex on demand and make her act like she’s having a great time?
  14. The latter. I didn’t investigate thoroughly but it does involve sending copies of identification cards.
  15. I live close enough to LA that, well, certain sites occasionally get blocked. Honestly, I’m not mad. My work productivity should improve dramatically. Until then I’ll be in my bunk.
  16. Local credit union is advertising a free 3 year rate swap. Saw the billboard but haven't investigated. Sounds a little like what you just described.
  17. I'm very sorry for your loss.
  18. My total out-of-pocket for both eyes is about $12k. But I'm only 50 so I look at it as an ROI against having to buy 2 pair of glasses (including progressive custom-made polarized Costa sunglass lenses) every year or so. I can't wait to fish and golf without prescription lenses.
  19. Wow. The obituary was finally posted today. Her alcoholic husband wasn't even included in the obituary, but the rest of the family was. And then this: “If you or someone you know is involved in an abusive relationship, please reach out to the 24-hour Domestic Abuse safeline at 1-800-522-SAFE(7233), or, for a mental health crisis dial 988”
  20. That's why I paid for the premium, laser adjustable lenses. He can go back afterwards and fine tune them.
  21. Rickie!!! What a clutch win. Really happy for that guy. Those approaches on 18 x 2 were nails.
  22. Smh at this disease sometimes. God, I'm so glad I'm sober. I've spent the better part of several years trying to share experience, strength and hope with my wife's distant familial connection who has been circling the drain. While simultaneously trying to explain the insanity of alcoholism to his adoring wife. My last call with her I recommended that she “lawyer up, cut him off, get on your father’s jet, go somewhere peaceful and forget all about him before he kills you, nothing short of that, I'm serious.” So he ends up in rehab(s), insanity ensues, he meets someone and runs off with her. At this point I'm hearing stories but I'm not really paying attention because I've seen this show before. This morning I get a call, last night he had returned home (reason unknown) and per the security camera footage, he was walking up to her when she pulled her pistol and blew her brains out. ???????
  23. Answering this under the good faith assumption that you are an actual alcoholic rather than a hard drinker. Go find your tribe. Go to a variety of meetings and start meeting people, because if there is a great chance that if you're the former, these are your new friends. From AA, page 152: “We know our friend is like a boy whistling in the dark to keep up his spirits. He fools himself. Inwardly he would give anything to take half a dozen drinks and get away with them. He will presently try the old game again, for he isn't happy about his sobriety. He cannot picture life without alcohol. Some day he will be unable to imagine life either with alcohol or without it. Then he will know loneliness such as few do. He will be at the jumping-off place. He will wish for the end. We have shown how we got out from under. You say, "Yes, I'm willing. But am I to be consigned to a life where I shall be stupid, boring and glum, like some righteous people I see? I know I must get along without liquor, but how can I? Have you a sufficient substitute?" Yes, there is a substitute and it is vastly more than that. It is a fellowship in Alcoholics Anonymous. There you will find release from care, boredom and worry. Your imagination will be fired. Life will mean something at last. The most satisfactory years of your existence lie ahead. Thus we find the fellowship, and so will you. "How is that to come about?" you ask. "Where am I to find these people?" You are going to meet these new friends in your own community. Near you, alcoholics are dying helplessly like people in a sinking ship. If you live in a large place, there are hundreds. High and low, rich and poor, these are future fellows of Alcoholics Anonymous. Among them you will make lifelong friends.” AA is the best entertainment a dollar or two can buy.
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