The vast majority of people on this thread are men. We have a hard time seeing things from the female perspective so we tend to frame al these issues from the male side. I know lots of men who are happily married or in relationships, or just have satisfying dating lives and not all, but most of the really successful ones see women as people. Companions not receptacles. Having three daughters has really pushed home to me how often these men who see themselves as alphas see women as objects for them to obtain. They don't want a companion they want a trophy or a conquest. The successful ones get laid a lot but don't ever seen to find a mate. The unsuccessful ones are the passport bros.
I agree it's a complex problem that doesn't lend itself to a simple answer but that's been my observation. I was raised to see women as companions and friends as well as sexual partners and it's cost me getting laid a few times, but it's also lead to a fulfilling married and social life. If your sole criteria is looks, you best look good yourself or have a lot of money/fame or you're probably going to be disappointed.