I don't know why your background confuses me, but it always does. You were married and have kids and it must have been with her where your wife said something like she always knew she was a lesbian. But then you got divorced and remarried? You can PM me, and it isn't so important, but I have a heard time keeping things straight. It seems like it all happened around Covid.
And just to keep things on topic, I know some very smart doctors who were anti-vax for Covid. I couldn't understand it because scientifically, mRNA vaccines should be safer than the standard vaccines. mRNA doesn't enter the nucleus and can't intercalate into DNA. Now, granted there is a lot unknown, but that is the way things stand as of today. And it codes for a single protein, the spike protein. Meanwhile, a standard vaccine is an extremely large amalgamation of proteins that create thousands of antibodies that could attack intracellular proteins as well as microbial proteins. That seems much more dangerous to me.