I framed it as especially true for females because there is this stubborn idea that females have all the power: we can say no or we can say yes, we can use birth control or not, we can give birth or end the pregnancy, but in every case is that truly females having the power if at every turn there is a judgement (by males and society) that we are flawed no matter which of those we 'choose'? Make no mistake, this is as harmful to males as it is to females, but as soon as females begin exercising the choice to get educated and gain some autonomy (admit to having a sex drive, wanting a career, voting, having financial independence), here comes society saying, "yeah no and here are a bunch of reasons why we need you to go back to the way things were when you couldn't do any of those things." SEE: Media articles outlining recent legislation, population decline, etc etc etc.
Females certainly have plenty to answer for with respect to the choices we make, but perhaps it is the very real awareness of some pretty smart and educated young people females who see their position in the impossible dilemma in which they've been placed and the communities around them (families, friends, online communities, influencers, media, etc) that consistently buzz in their ear like a thousand mosquitos about who and what they're supposed to be or THEY ARE WRONG AND AT FAULT. None of that matters anyway because they are always wrong and at fault. Hell, it makes me pretty sad on their behalf.
Having said that, we certainly parented our children with a mixture of sexual education and guidance towards understanding choices and consequences and boundaries that they ought to consider as they navigated adolescence and young adulthood. Abstinence for the right reasons is not 'bad,' but the culture of shame surrounding the female sex drive is abhorrent.