To my unfortunate dismay, we will not be having the deadbeat brother in law at our holiday activities because my sister in law (wife's sister) has divorced him (finally). I guess she really did get tired of showering with a garden hose.
Back in late July/early August, she finally moved out and got an apartment about 10/15 miles away from their house (still with no water to this day). My inlaws and wife helped her move in on a weekday while the BIL was running errands for his dad. Remember, this guy has never had a job in his life and is 41 or so. Literally, his resume is BLANK. Shit hit the fan when he found out she moved out: Oh I'm a changed man, we'll go to counseling, all that bullshit. Anywho, she began hanging out with new people, getting her life together, etc. She's 40 this year by the way. Well, apparently the BIL got the SIL hooked on something in middle of August as she began to hang out with him again outside of anyone's knowledge and was supplying it for her to keep her with him. It's a sad story honestly. In late August, she completely broke contact with her entire family (mom, dad, my wife) and they began to worry about her. Granted, this is after she had filed for divorce but before it was finalized (60 day waiting period I believe). We live in Houston and SIL lives in Conroe area so my wife leaves at the drop of a hat one day around 9 AM and my FIL leaves Tyler to meet and go try and find her. She can only be so many places right? We obviously live closer so my wife checks her work, apartment, several known locations where she'd been over the previous weekend. Nothing. She goes to their house she just moved out of and asks some people working on the next house if they'd seen someone that looks like my wife. They don't speak English so they go "ooooo yeah...tall...smoke smoke...look real bad...just here!" Wife leaves and goes back to the apartment and she's not there. She goes and checks other places again, calls her boss who says that she hasn't been into the office in 3 days (this was a Monday, so dating back to the previous week). She goes BACK to the house where BILs dad is waiting for her. BILs dad gets up in her face saying that they are no longer together and BIL wouldn't be messaging or hanging out with SIL anymore anyway. She gets back in her car and checks googlemaps again and sees SIL pop up at her new apartment. She hightails it back to the apartment and finds her blitzed out of her mind. An intervention ensues. SIL realizes she fucked up, goes to Alaska to visit family, stays for a few months, gets clean, and is currently visiting friends on the east coast. I'm very happy for her honestly. However, my wife manages the phone accounts for us (us 2, my in laws, and my SIL and exBIL). ExBIL has texted SIL 2,700 times over the past 9 days. He's even gone as far as to text my FIL about the people that SIL is hanging out with, saying that he should run background checks on these people. I believe she will be filing a restraining order on the guy. She needs to move farther away from him, immediately. But she hasn't been back to the apartment in over 2 months.
My other SIL (47) and her boytoy (67 now) will be at Christmas. Thank fuck they won't be there for Thanksgiving. We're hosting thanksgiving this year with us (3), my parents and aunt, and my FIL/MIL and now single SIL. My MIL is still very dramatic. She's been cancer free for 2 years now (officially in remission) but still treats herself like shit (doesn't exercise, eats like shit, very dramatic about everything - think 95 year old woman attempting to walk). My FIL is great and my parents are good as well. Christmas will be the shitshow this year and I'm looking forward to more weedeater string and $5 scratchoffs!