Spending more and more time with my parents lately. It's a little more eye-opening when I notice things like my parents aging. My mom (63 tomorrow) has lost about 30 pounds and is doing absolutely fantastic. She's exercising daily, loving retirement, wanting to travel and spend time with her grandson. My dad on the other hand...oof. Massively obese, couch potato, never taken his health seriously, smoker for 50+ years but he won't smoke around anyone in the family because I guess he's embarrassed about it. We all know though so it's a game of "cat and mouse". They recently came to stay at our house this last weekend and my dad spent literally all day Saturday on the couch watching TV. He was "awake" for 15 hours and was in front of the TV for 13.5 hours on Saturday claiming that his back was hurt from a fall he took over a week ago that he just now went to the doctor for. When he's not traveling, he wakes up at 5:30 every morning, goes to his coffee group at 7, gets home around 8:30 or 9 and naps on the couch or watches TV until lunch, eats lunch, then naps again until dinner, eats dinner, then falls asleep on the couch until 9:30 when he'll go to bed. He has undiagnosed sleep apnea and will snore to the point where my mom has kicked him out of the bed and he sleeps across the house. When I stay at their house, his snoring will wake me up and we are 3 rooms away. All he wants to do is eat as it's his vice or outlet. What REALLY sucks is that he just doesn't seem to care about interacting with his only grandson. My mom will take my son places, do things, etc. My dad makes excuses on why he can't go - their dog, his sister, he doesn't feel good, can't walk that far.
He constantly complains that all my mom wants to do is travel and he will find excuses to not go and it's holding her back terribly. My mom and I think he has some undiagnosed depression as well due to some shit with my brother. He's on antidepressants, high blood pressure meds, type 2 diabetic, and it's honestly like he's a ticking time bomb. All he wants to do is talk about food and it's infuriating. I have absolutely nothing in common with him. My mom has been harping on him for 40+ years and he hasn't changed a damn thing. My mom and my FIL are fun grandparents.