Good story, tbone. I had my kids early and spent my 20s/30s raising them, so it was my late 30s before i was ready to take my guitar playing beyond the sofa. I started attending some really shitty, and some pretty decent, blues jams around San Diego where I met a lot of really cool and super supportive people who got me going, wich soon turned into a couple cover bands. I moved to San Francisco and played a few jams around here, but I didn't really click with them - maybe because I'd already been down that road. I did fall in with a bunch of people who were in various original bands and figured I could do that. I couldn't find one to join, but my friend Rocky said, "If you start writing songs, you will have a band!". So i did and he was right. Now I have 3 or 4 bands depending how you count them, and have no problem finding talented people to make music with outside that. I wouldn't count jamming among the reasons for my divorce, but I definitely feel you on that on, tbone. Early on I'd get a lot of shit for it and she never came out or showed any interest. I had a friend who followed my footsteps in attending jams back in SD and his wife would always come with him to support. I thought that was cool and they're still married. @Buzzrock find a low attendance open mic or open jam, get a feel for it, then show up w a guitar when you're up to it. I think find a supportive community. I guess just don't do it if you want to stay married!