It's one of the reasons that I joined a PCUSA church and left the Baptists.
I got tired of being told I was supposed to hate. It didn't matter if they said it in terms of hating the sin, but not the sinner. They wanted to hate someone. Wanted to. In fairness it wasn't universal, but it was a general tendency and was built into the denomination. The Baptist Men that go on rescue missions after disasters does not excuse them voting for shitheads taking food out of the mouths of children somewhere else, maybe their own grandchildren. I'd had enough. I just stopped going anywhere.
I think it was the fact that I knew this particular church had a longstanding program of feeding homeless people. No sermons, no tracts, just food and other essentials. I knew about the gay pastors and allowing women to serve as pastors. So I went to go check it out.
I know at least 3 other used to be Baptists there. I know a Catholic family that had similar experiences as mine that joined the same time that I did. It's a smaller church but it's pretty full every week.
I know there are gay people at our church. I know there are some people that don't agree with it, but it's not a big deal. It might have been, but it's all sort of settled now. If you can't handle that there's a woman that used be Nazarene when she was a kid leading us in prayer or maybe even giving the sermon well, there are other places you can go because she's not leaving or stopping. If it bothers you to sit near someone you think might be gay, and why is that? Did they hit on you or something? Again, maybe this isn't the best church for you, because he's a regular and has been going here since before I was here.
It's all kinda different in a good way.