We are hosting this year. Originally, it was only supposed to be our family of four plus my mom, sister, and niece. My mom has late stage Parkinsons; so for the last few years, we have reserved the clubhouse at her assisted living facility (we refer to it as "Green Grove"). It's nice, spacious, and ten minutes away. So I cook everything, and then we just drive it over. Makes clean up a breeze. Well, my wife invited her family, but we figured they wouldn't come (it's a long drive), but other circumstances have resulted in her dad and his wife, as well as her sister (family of 5) joining us. Great by me. I cook the same amount each year regardless of numbers. I upped the size of the turkey, and stuck to the plan. My sister usually brings a few items. Last year, I trusted her with mashed potatoes, which I figured she'd whip up on site. But she decided to cook the potatoes the night before and try to reheat them and mash them on site. They sucked, and she's been relegated to green bean and toasted pecans duty. This whole group is pretty well-mannered. So there won't be much overt drama. The SIL's family has rented a house about 45 minutes from us (in between us and her dad). About a week ago, she floated an idea that we should come out to their rental the night of Thanksgiving, whereupon they would prepare another Thanksgiving meal. My wife squashed that out before I ever caught wind of it. They are good cooks and generous hosts, but who wants a second Thanksgiving meal the same day (sorry to the young kids of divorced parents who, in fact, do this each year). When I did hear about it, I was a bit offended (what, my cooking isn't good enough), but I decided to just up the butter in a few dishes to ensure that no one in her family would be moving quickly, much less want to eat anything for the rest of the day. It will all be fine. We tend to enjoy each other's company, and I appreciate the fact that everyone gets their own space after the big event.