
Reagan1k
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I don't recall who said it on this site or maybe in a meeting somewhere but I was told that the body will sleep when it is ready and when it needs it. Maybe the healing process requires you to be awake at that time? Don't fight it. Get a copy of the Big Book. Put it beside your bed and if you wake and can't go back to sleep in 15 min or so, grab the book and start reading. You'll either dose off again or get some beneficial reading time in. Forced sleep isn't that rejuvenating anyway. It sucks - you're right! But don't fight it. This will pass in due time.
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Yeah - I think I recall your "experience" with the profession from that thread and I agree. Wasn't she the narcissistic reincarnation of Freud, Jung, and Tony Sporano? Having been through this and having a little perspective now, I'm drawn to counselors/therapists who know their limits as it relates to alcoholism. My experience is that even a great therapist can't CBT a drunk out of active or untreated alcoholism. Some do have insight or experience with it and can relate. Others know how to stay in their lane and turn it over to those better equipped to talk the talk. What I've also seen and lived is that any real progress with a therapist is fleeting at best until the patient is sober and can get honest about their life. And then there is what you lived......damn. Anyway - @YGIFS get to some meetings. Try to have an open mind and focus on the similarities in what you hear and how you feel. Get honest with a therapist. Listen to some AA speaker tapes from someone like Chuck Chamberlin, Clint Hodges, or Clancy Imislund. They are all over the web and apps like AudioJoy. Do it all and keep doing it even when it's uncomfortable. There is relief on the other side of the discomfort.
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Good for you. Counseling can be a beneficial piece to the puzzle for sure. It helps to the extent you can be honest with the counselor and there may be a lot of things they can help you unpack or just be a good sounding board if that’s what you need at the time. As an aside- little inside baseball here. MANY counselors have a Rolodex of AA members to which they refer patients who are interested in getting sober. Most realize that alcoholics can speak and understand a language that a nonalcoholic counselor can’t.
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Welcome @YGIFS . Glad you're here! It's a big deal getting to where you are. Stay for a while. I've been trying to play catch-up but here are a few of my experiences. I had to get comfortable with the idea of being uncomfortable for a while. Booze were running my life and when I sobered up my body had to recover and my mind had to heal. We drunks hammer our body with an incredibly powerful depressant for years and it takes a while for all those synapses and neurons to get reacquainted with themselves. The best time to fully grab recovery is now. I got out of the ring relatively (compared to many) unscathed but I don't get to decide if there is another recovery in me. If I climb back in the ring with the champ, he might not let me crawl out through the ropes again. He decides when I've had enough. I might not get another surrender. Meetings - I thought I could do it on my own until I couldn't. I finally broke down and went to a meeting even though they were contrary to every concept of self-reliance I'd ever had. If you're like me, it'll be the biggest letdown of negative expectations you've ever seen. I built it up to be all this stuff that it wasn't. What it was entailed some recovered drunks sitting around talking about solutions and a few others like me just sitting and listening. All had a right to a seat and there were no AA police, oaths to swear, or commitments to make. Meetings aren't where you work steps, spill your take it to the grave shit, or get baptized into a new religion. Meetings are a place where those who've found recovery share their experience and give hope to newcomers. It's a place with solutions. Try some. As has been said before, if someone invites you to share or speak, saw whatever you want or say nothing. "I'm just listening" is perfectly fine. Hell, I say that sometimes if I'm unwound about something. Some days I don't want to share and I don't. The only requirement to be there is having a desire to stop drinking - period. Godspeed my friend. It's a cool ride. Bumpy as hell at times but ever so worth it when you look back.
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@Shaddie Just take an Uber up to Oregon and get your converter back. Multi-State Bust
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Youth Football Coach Shot and Killed by Aquib Talib's Brother
Reagan1k replied to cmontexas's topic in Daily Texan
Parents suck in the aggregate. News reel at 10pm. The percentage of parents who vocalize or demonstrate their unhealthy emotional investment in their kids' athletics has increased. Hell, in the 70's and 80's some parents didn't even go to games. There were extreme cases back then too, but the volume of the entire room has been turned up at these events. It's a rising tide with even passive or uninvested (in the actual outcome) parents frequently showing their ass out of a sense of protection for their kid. There's a perceived social standing or status that a lot of these parents now strive to achieve based on the kid's/team's results. It feeds on itself, and social media certainly doesn't help. "Select-ball mom" and "travel-team dad" have become the Karen's of the sports world. My all-time favorite was the never-seen-a-baseball-game-dad...pocket protector in place-literally....wanted to fight me for telling my little league team that his kid sucked. It took his kid's coach and league admin about an hour to explain the game to him in enough detail that he understood "Get the easy out." didn't mean his kid sucked, but rather that my team had a force out at any base. -
Do you have any field reports on the CX yet with larger game (in the .270).
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I was looking at SGammo.com earlier this morning and they do have some Hornady CX in stock (Monolithic 130gr.) I've got to shoot some aoudad this year and will be letting some guests do the honors. I don't like chasing those f'ers and want both shoulders broken so I'm looking at those to get more penetration than my normal Nosler BT Federal Premiums.
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I’d get my family, her friends and co-workers to all chip in for a really nice shotgun- Kemen or Caesar Guerini. Slight chance she won’t love it. In that case you can borrow it and then take care of it for her if she changes her mind.
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Yes- you can put any firearms in a properly written gun trust. Guns, swords, ammo, other collectibles - as long as the wording of the trust is right for the item and you have the item listed in the document inventory. A lot of people do that to have one overriding document to handle distribution of guns at death. It's basically a revocable living trust. If you've got a lot of 'em or some real value tied up in them, the trust allows passing the assets outside of probate. Also prevents some kid or relative from raiding the safe during your funeral and telling everyone else that grandpa gave this to me last month, etc. Hardest part is keeping it up to date, inventory wise - or as your intentions for disposition at death change.
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Justin @ pre64win is my go to for all questions. He loves to get into the weeds and is meticulous. I've had him do some cool stuff for me and love his work. Thread derail - About as much of a derail as you can get from classic rifle discussions - Anyone else been following the development and commercialization of the 8.6 Blackout? I need that like I need a hole in my head but it is interesting, and seeing how it functioned in Africa on some big game at distance is amazing. Probably a solution looking for a problem, but that's never stopped me when it comes to firearms.
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Agreed - Auctions (not Gunbroker usually) are the way to go. You just have to stay patient and set limits. I try like hell not to get caught up on day-of bidding. I set my max bid and then don't look back or I'll get sucked in to the "what's another hundred" over and over in a bidding war. Just make sure you understand each auctioneer's terms and buyer's premium. Fees will add up fast on bigger ticket items. Pawn shop deals mostly died with the coming of the internet. It's too easy for them to find real market value on hard to find stuff and price accordingly. Some may discount if a particular item sits around too long, but i'm amazed at how accurately most guns are priced by and large. True deals are hard to come by.
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Two years ago I found one like that - only two bad photos and mis-categorized in the auction listing. Best I could tell it was going to be a holy grail......maybe a proto-type or lunch pail rifle that escaped from the factory. I took a flier and was like you; the only bidder. I was thrilled, but when I got it I couldn't figure it out. Didn't have any of the right markings. Turns out it was a 54 and not a 70. What fooled me was that unbeknownst to me - many years ago, you could buy a kit that transitioned the 54's original safety to a 70 style 3-position version. I had the sadzz for a few hours but in reality it's a cool rifle and good conversation piece.
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People will pay $750 for just an action if the rifle is a beater. Goes up from there. Hard to buy a functional rifle in even decent shape for less than $1500 all in if you're dealing at auction....especially if it is unmodified. Anything pre-war, supergrade, featherweight, or a cartridge beyond the standard '06 or .270 is likely past $2000 to get in your hands.
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Opened my big fat mouth at a nice gun shop while on an out of state trip. Lots of vintage shotguns but very few rifles behind the glass. Guy asked if I wanted to look at anything and I declined - saying I’m focused on old Model 70’s these days. None displayed- seemed like a harmless answer. Owner asks me…”Got a pre-64 .22 Hornet?” Sucker me- “Wish like hell I did!” Smiling owner- “Wait right here. I’m your huckleberry.” Comes out of the back with a REALLY nice ‘57 standard at 98% +. My last objection was that I couldn’t let my wife see it packed for the ride back- No problem- we’ll ship it and she’ll never know. $500 less than he’d just listed it on line. I’ve made worse decisions and can check that cartridge off the list now.
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They somehow figured out she went out on a flight from Newark to San Jose. Not reported yet what tipped them off to the Newark flight. Once they had her pinned to being in CR it probably wasn't too hard...just took some time to ask around all the yoga studios if a new crazy gringo had been showing up.
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Interview is scheduled for 3 weeks from now when I make a Batan style march across the country for the visit. In the meantime, a neighbor is doing the bare basics as a gesture of goodwill. I can’t wait until she wants to backcharge his ass for something he did “wrong”.
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No where else to put this…. My MIL - Her yard man is missing in action. She’s pissed. He hasn’t returned calls or texts in 3 weeks. Odds are currently even that he’s a) died or b) ghosting her bc she’s a miser and probably hasn’t ever paid him a reasonable wage and he’s had it. She’s treating it like a class B felony and doesn’t know how he sleeps at night bla bla bla. MIL asked her neighbor (a licensed landscape architect) for a recommendation and he referred her to his guy who has been doing the architect’s yard for 10 years. She called today to tell us that on our upcoming trip to see her, she wants me to sit in on the “2nd interview”. She’s “interviewed” him once but wants a follow-up with me there. The fact that he’s good enough for a landscape architect isn’t enough. I’m not sure what her interrogation methods will be and how far into his history we’ll dig, but I’m sure she’ll start any wage offer at somewhere below the net cost of the gas required to run the mower.
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I have a Schlage keypad deadbolt. Wife and I have our code and Set a code for the housekeeper or anyone else we need. Change it when not needed. Installed myself and I can barely change a light bulb. Durable and high quality. Has a key for back-up but batteries last a year and give plenty of warning when getting depleted.
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FYI on those who want to keep reliable stashes of 5.56x45. Reports are that the federal government is considering stopping Lake City from selling to public. The Feds own Lake City and lease it to an independent contractor (Olin) to make 5.55 green tip to supply governmental needs. The feds allow the excess to go out for sale. It’s a big chunk of the 5.56 fmj market and prohibiting the sale of surplus to civilians will dramatically drive down supply and increase price. Their reason doesn’t need to be explained. Whether this goes through or not, ammo prices are not heading down in the foreseeable future, with this under consideration.
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2021 - Is inflation finally back in the conversation?
Reagan1k replied to Reagan1k's topic in Business and Markets
Had an interesting conversation yesterday and heard an optimistic theory..... Supply chain issues and product shortages were a big contributor to this inflation mess and will coincidentally help the Fed stumble into a softer landing than most expect. New demand is waning, but there is such a backlog of undelivered goods in the economy that while new orders/business slows, the the backlog for existing/previous work will backfill the economy. Select names for discretionary products will suffer big inventory gluts, but the majority of businesses haven't yet caught up so this lessening of demand will be the break they need to catch their breath while keeping employment relatively stable. The consumer resets/adjusts in the meantime and the Fed gets credit for hitting a triple after being born on third base. Someone's glass is always half full. -
Urgent need for 12- or 15-passenger vans
Reagan1k replied to sasquatch69's topic in Can You Help Me With This?
Buy 6 vans, take the trip and then sell them..... Let all this inflation work for you and turn a nice profit in a few days. You'll fund next year's trip in advance. That's how it works, right? -
So basically paying the kid to get money out of the business and the kid then buys a life insurance policy with it instead of spending it? Business deducts the wages. Business pays employment taxes. Kid pays income tax and employment tax. Lots of arbitrage there among tax rates That seems like very little juice for the squeeze unless we're talking large sums where a few points saved equals big bucks....or if the focus is on the issue #3 and the annual gift exclusion. The withholding seems dumb. If you want to pay a kid, the tax is the tax and the withholding/refund part seems irrelevant at first glance....unless that's dad's way of keeping the kid from spending it..... Downside risk is that the wage could be treated as a dividend, not reasonable compensation, and that could cause some heartburn. I guess in thinking through this quickly, that must be the angle - gift over and above the annual gift exclusion and hope the IRS doesn't invalidate the payment as wages and treats them as a dividend.
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If Rudy and Paco's is booked, Blvd. Seafood has been very good in the past. I have to travel to Galveston 1-2 times a year to see an account there and have been multiple times. Small, neighborhood kind of joint.....appears to be a lot of locals as the main customer base. I've enjoyed it. https://blvdseafood.com/food/
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One wrinkle to throw at you.......the fact that you can start taking then pension today provides a lot of different options. If you can start to draw the pension immediately (per your Situation #1) - Direct deposited into a taxable investment account - the future value of a stream of monthly $1600 investments made for 10 years and earning 8% would be around $290,000. - Use whatever return you want..... So.......at the end of 10 years and when you retire, you have $290,000 in an after tax account plus a continuing monthly pension income. That continuing pension income could help you delay taking SS by filling in some of that gap. Then, withdrawing 4.5% of $290,000 gives you around $1050 per month (plus you still have the $1600 per month pension) so now you are at $2650 per month, and based on the current tax code, the taxation would be more favorable because at least some of the money coming out of the taxable account would be presumably at cap gains rates so your blended effective tax rate would be reduced. Question - Is the pension actually a period certain benefit - Ends in 25 years, or are you just using that 25 years as an assumed mortality? There are innumerable "right ways to do it", but personal finance is about 90% personal, and just 10% finance - so knowing your own self-discipline, risk tolerance, and emotional goals will be the most important factor in which "right" decision you choose. Finance looks great on paper and passes the math test until life punches the person in the mouth and they either have to stick with the plan or abandon it.
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