Yep. That's me. Well, except for the elite private schooling -- the boy got a couple of years of that because our high school was a disaster for him, but otherwise, they were public school kids. And yeah, both of my kids count among their dear friends several folks who are nowhere close to as "successful" as we are, including, yep, some refugees and immigrants.
This is also me (well, it's NOT me, actually):
I not only "care" about some people that you might think that way about....I do and have done all of those things with such people. Eat together, socialize together, am in community with...yep, all of those things. With people you think are beneath you.
None of them are beneath me. The only people I see as "beneath me" are those who are purposefully mean and cruel - it's an action-based judgment.
I was blessed with a shitload of things in this life: I was born with certain gifts, I lucked into having parents (both children of poverty, including government assistance) who sacrificed for me. And I was surrounded by community (school, church, neighborhood, friends) who did the same. And then a state that invested in me. I'm a smart, hard-working SOB. I'm also not a fucking asshole, so I know that without all of that kindness and support, I might be much less successful. And I hear a lotta talk from folks on the right about being "Christian," but it seems they didn't actually read the Gospels (you know, the actual things that are the Christian texts). Luke says "to whom much is given, much is required." Seems I oughta try to live that.
So, yeah, that means breaking bread with people snobs might not associate with. It means being in real conversation and communion with them, so when they run up against social/government/life impediments they aren't equipped to navigate, I can help and offer advice. It means giving of my time, talents, and treasure. I have no idea how much money we've contributed/spent etc. on such people over the years, because that's not the point. We can help. So why in the fuck wouldn't we? And mind you, I think I'm a pretty shitty Christian, and fall far short of what I expect of myself. But goddamn, man. I sure as shit ain't "pretending on the internet." And I know a fair number of folks around here too who (1) speak similarly, and (2) walk the walk (or, like me, try but fall short).
BTW, I've been to Colony Ridge. Several times (dear lord, the roads heading into the development itself are a mess). Have you?