I like many of your points. I've been thinking about this whole issue, and some of the comments other posters have brought up.
We've stopped kids from settling issues among themselves now. Bullying seems to be getting worse not better (is that just perception or reality). If you defend yourself in school you get punished. A couple swings, some landed blows, and usually that was it, and life went on.
There just doesn't seem to be actual resolution for either party today, and could that lead to pent up aggression, and anger ? That skill set of settling school yard issues seems to be a training ground for dealing with the real hard shit that lives throws at us.
We don't let a kids being bullied fight back. We don't let kids defend themselves. We make them come to the authorities. I don't know how good a thing that is in the long run. People have to learn how to deal with issues on their own. Conflict resolution is a valid process, but in the end one has to rely on the,selves to get thru life and the shit that comes their way.
I don't know if this is all BS or not, but anger, and emotions sure seem to get out of control damn fast today.