We had our reception at our ranch (married at a pretty church nearby). Let me tell you, that costs more than a wedding venue. Because you have to pay for someone to provide tables, chairs, every piece of silverware, linen, chaffing dishes, plate, etc. Whereas a venue has all that shit on hand.
We had 300 guests and it was a lot of fun. I do not regret spending the money. But we certainly were careful with what we spent. It still cost probably $80k all in and my wife and I paid. Flowers, food, booze, servers, photography, comfort stations/restrooms, transpo to and from chapel nearby, band, and a million different little things.
I did not spend the extra $15k for a tent. We had perfect weather. 60 degrees, clear skies, and no wind. But man we were sweating rain in the preceding weeks.
My sister got married at our ranch also but our parents paid that. Hers cost triple what mine did.