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Frank Drebin

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  1. Basically what I posted. Ani going to tell you to sleep well.
  2. That is not the premise I was discussing. It is not nice to give kids therapy when they do not need it. It is not nice to practice what is called "gentle parenting" with no structure or rules. It is not nice to be a bulldozer or helicopter parenting. These things are destructive, no matter how well meaning you are.
  3. None of us have any idea what they were doing immediately before the droning. If they were combatants who had just engaged the IDF, would your opinion be different? Also, what was the secondary explosion?
  4. There is no way of knowing from the footage whether these are civilians or combatants (Hamas fighters do not wear uniforms).
  5. I get sad when thinking how few WW2 vets are left. I remember in 1991 during the 50th anniversary of Pearl Harbor the military school I was at had a big ceremony and invited all the local WW2 vets to attend. A ton of locals attended. And many were still very middle aged looking. Several of our staff were WW2 vets. Some were at Guadalcanal or Iwo. They had some stories. Those guys are just about all gone.
  6. Wait, this is from the guy whose entire online existence here and in thousands of posts is bitching about how everyone in Texas and the United States he encounters are selfish assholes?
  7. You were comparing us to other states. Which ones should we emulate? And how do you know enough about how other states are run to make any kind of meaningful comparison? I have meaningful information on and experience with governments in Texas, California, Colorado, and Montana. I am not sure I would say any of that lot are run well. Last time I renewed in person I went to the DPS office in Hempstead. I literally sat on a back porch of a trailer in a white plastic chair for 5 minutes before going in. That was the waiting area, and it was awesome.
  8. I don't agree with that at all. And I doubt any of us has enough information to truly know.
  9. You're the hero we need.
  10. You should read all your posts and assess where you fall on the meanness versus kindness spectrum.
  11. City parking enforcement pretty much anywhere I have been are some ruthlessly efficient bastards. They and Chic Fil A are the gold standard of efficiency.
  12. I remember all the Glenn Dorsey hype from LSU people. And being laughed at when I said I see almost no difference between him and Frank Okam.
  13. Roger Ebert had the "Stanton-Walsh Rule," which states that "no movie featuring either Harry Dean Stanton or M. Emmet Walsh in a supporting role can be altogether bad."
  14. Serving others, spending time outdoors, and exercise are free/low cost things everyone can do that will improve your mental health more than just about anything. I walk a few miles while listening to the Gospel preached every morning. Best thing I do every day for my state of mind and well being while costing virtually nothing.
  15. There have always been and always will be plenty of bad things to worry about. Prior couple generations to me had the great depression, dust bowl, world war, literal starvation, civil rights and racial strife, nuclear war drills, polio, possibility of getting drafted and sent to ‘Nam, etc.
  16. Would definitely help solve the obesity crisis in America. You can't eat or drink double the amount of calories you burn, you won't be as fat.
  17. In the USA, parents try way too hard to fend off anything negative or challenging for their kids. They don't want them to get hurt, lose in a sports game or even walk alone to school without a tracker. She talks about mothers of college-aged women tracking their daughter's periods on iphone apps. Crazy shit. Those "bulldozer parents" are causing serious mental damage to their children instead of keeping them "safe". One reason she hypothesizes for this change is parents have less kids than they used to. So they hyperfocus on the ones they did have. My grandparents had 5 kids. They could not micromanage their lives. There was not enough time. Also, in the book she mentions an instance of a kid's cat dying, and then sending the kid to therapy to "deal with it". She discusses that therapy has been traditionally been seen as a zero downside deal. At best, it might help, at worst, it kinda does nothing. She's challenging that notion that it can have negative side effects. What Shrier harps on in the book is iatrogenesis. Meaning harm brought forth BY the healer. She’s merely suggesting that by introducing therapy or a therapeutic approach to deal with very regular childhood dilemma causes more harm than good. Our kids are getting more and more therapy than they ever have, and not so coincidentally, they have the worst mental health they’ve ever had. This generation of kids is more anxious and less able to do for themselves than any generation before.
  18. Fast food is not cheap these days. Other than occasional Chic Fil A, the cost plus the calories make it really easy to skip for me. I can literally order a pound of chicken fajitas that comes with sides for pretty close to the cost of Whataburger to feed our family of four. And with the fajitas, there is usually enough rice, beans, and tortillas left over (and sometimes chicken), where I can get a couple work lunches out of it.
  19. I have read her book on this issue. I don't think this book has anything to do with the woke versus non-woke culture wars.
  20. She says that over-focusing on ones own emotional state, which is championed by therapists, Social Emotional Learning advocates, and modern school counselors, leads to more instances of anxiety, emotional weakness, and depression. It's a concern about where we tell kids to focus, inwardly vs outwardly, in a way. By ruminating on "our feelings" too long or too much, we give them more power over us, not less. We feel more helpless and anxious through this self-focus. She makes the argument that therapy is an intervention needed for people with real issues, but when applied to otherwise "normal" kids, we actually can and do cause harm. We've turned every parent into a "mini-therapist", every kid gets a diagnosis, resulting in over-intervention in our kids otherwise normal emotional development, and stunting their ability to deal themselves with negative emotions in a healthy way. She didn't say this, but it reminded me of the classic parable of the butterfly, where the kid can't stand to see the butterfly struggle, so they help it out of the cocoon, only to watch it die from lack of wing strength.
  21. And homes. The average home size in the 1950s was around 1,000 SF. Now you have much larger homes and much smaller families.
  22. Abigail Shrier just wrote a book relevant to this. I know she is controversial for her other book and takes related to LGBTQ, but her new book has nothing to do with it and makes a lot of points parents should ponder. The book dives into trying to figure out why kids are having so many mental health problems, when there are so many resources devoted to improving mental health outcomes. Anxiety, depression, suicide, etc are all higher than they've ever been with kids, even though their lives are arguably better than ever before. It just doesn't make sense. A few key takeaways from the book: A constant attention on how kids are "feeling" or "thinking" is causing negative outcomes. Constantly ruminating on your emotions and how you feel negatively impacts your mental health. If all you do is focus on your emotions, you are destined to be anxious or depressed. We incessantly ask kids how they're feeling, if they're happy, how their mental health is, etc, and this is creating kids who think they're fragile instead of resilient. Trying to solve every problem for kids has caused a generation who can't do anything for themselves. Earlier generations were told to "suck it up" or "you'll live" or "rub some dirt on it" all the time. Many of us came to the conclusion this is "bad parenting" because our feelings were neglected, and we vowed not to do this to our own children. Because of that, kids immediately over-dramatize everything that happens to them, making mountains out of molehills, and thinking the world must revolve around their emotions and feelings. You develop confidence and strong mental health by doing things, not by thinking or via therapy. You can't think your way out of anxiety. You don't gain confidence by analysis of your thoughts or mental health issues. You gain confidence and eliminate anxiety by doing gradually more difficult tasks, excelling at them, and realizing you are a competent, capable person. The non-stop attention therapy gives to these small, common emotions we all feel blows them out of proportion to their seriousness (not talking about genuine disorders here, just normal anxieties that millions of people go to therapy to try to avoid). One of the best ways to decrease your happiness is to chase it. Our society constantly tells kids they should be "happy" and asks them if they are. Happiness isn't a state you should be in 24/7. That's not realistic. Joy and bliss aren't permanent states - they are fleeting. Contentment, stillness, and being even-keeled are much better goals to aim for mentally. The happiest, most well adjusted kids come from families with loving parents that have rules and structure for the household. Constantly surveying school-age kids about their mental health causes more issues than it solves. Mental health resources is big money. Districts need to validate all the resources allocated towards mental health, and they often do that via surveys. Asking kids non-stop questions like: - Have you thought about self harm? - Have you thought about suicide? - Have you been so anxious you can't get out of bed? Etc, etc puts into their heads the idea that themselves, or many of their peers are broken and cannot function properly in the real world. It normalizes situations that would be incredibly rare at any other time in history.
  23. FSU must have been like this to Clemson:
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