I think all of this is extremely naive, like something one would tell oneself to rationalize rooting for, and possibly even enjoying, watching people you've never met die.
Westerners like to believe the average Russian has a choice because we have the luxury to think that way ... because we do have choice. The average Russian does not, has not, will not.
And what few on this board seem to realize--and probably fewer would admit--is that 99 percent of us would do no differently than those Russians if we were in their shoes and grew up in the same situation. We would be that poor idiot, spending the final desperate seconds of his life frantically evading a drone as it bore down upon him only to disappear in a puff of smoke and then reappear, body motionless and limbs askew.
My intention here is not to insult or embarrass you, but to point out that many of the Russians you see dying in those videos are just as much victims as the Ukrainian citizens and soldiers. They are merely pawns in some demented despot's lust for power and real estate.
It is one thing to recognize their deaths as unavoidable casualties if those deaths ultimately help stop Putin and preserve Ukraine's freedom.
But it's another thing entirely to deceive yourself into thinking that having those deaths broadcast on a social media platform for all the Western World to laugh at was in any way their choice ... or that you would have somehow acted any nobler.