My grandma has lived alone for 7 years now and it's still very hard for her to handle things on her own. Grandpa did everything for her and I mean everything. Taxes, car repair, bank accounts, dr appointments, lawn maintenance, etc. He passed away and now she's on her own to do things he always did for her. My mom and her siblings have been taking care of most things but when she's alone she is trouble. I don't mean "puts a pot on the stove at full blast and goes to sleep for the night" trouble. She has two neighbors. One is another old lady but a bit younger. 70 year old white lady. I reached out to her and said "hey if you see anything strange over there, here's my number just contact me and we'll get it taken care of". Her response was "please don't contact me ever again". Ooookay. Don't know what I did to her but okay we'll cross her off the list. The other neighbor is a younger hispanic couple (well, I say younger but I'm talking 40s with adult children). I did the same thing and they had no interest in helping her. Oooookay again. This is the grandma who cried when I made a road trip to see her, cried the entire time I was there because she was so happy to see me, and the cried when I had to leave. There's no way she's isolating herself like this. She has to be living next to two assholes, right?
Last week we had a fence guy come out to her house for an estimate. Mom told her all she has to do is let them in so they can take some photos, measurements, etc. He's not going to do any repairs or work. It's just an estimate. He'll send us the estimate, we'll pay from her checking account, and then go from there. Fence guy calls my mom. "Hey I just left her house and you're gonna need to find another contractor. She's being very mean and I can't do this job." Mom repeatedly asks him what did she say, what did she say, what happened. All he would say is she needs to find someone else to repair the fence.
Now it's becoming clear that it's not her neighbors that are the problem. It's her. She's been evaluated for dementia, alzheimers, etc. All negative. We've talked about maybe putting her in an assisted living facility but she doesn't want that. I'm not sure if I want that either since we already know how she treats her neighbors. Frustrating situation.