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Texas Recruiting Notes 2023: Strippers, Monkeys, and 5-Stars
Caver60 replied to Machinator's topic in 🤫$9.95🤫
Way back in the day when Inside Texas came in newsletter form from Robert Heard, I remember the suggestion that Shane Rink was the better, more consistent performer on his high school team than Sam Adams (DL, A&M commit). Ooops -
I'm pretty sure that my son (stepson) has for real OCD. I took him to a therapist last week and we are going again next week. We noticed when he was younger (10-ish) that he would wash his hands compulsively. We would ask him about it, and he would say, "I just don't want to get anyone sick," or some variation of that. He would wash so frequently that his knuckles would bleed. It was wild, and I had all sorts of warning bells going off, but my wife would talk him down from it. Sometimes there were identifiable triggers, but other times there was nothing going on at home at least that could explain what set him off. We were newly married, and I didn't have standing to throw any weight around with the kids at that point. He's 17 now. He is one helluva baseball player. All-District last season, incredible baseball and physical stats. I've often thought that baseball is where he goes to escape from his OCD. The physical activity drowns out the noise for him. He is being recruited by several colleges. Since the recruitment thing began, he has been having A LOT of trouble. He is not a social kid, he has trouble talking to girls. His "trouble" takes the form of what he calls "thoughts". He will see a teammate, and he will have a sexual thought about him. It's not one teammate, it could be any of them. And then he will fixate on that thought. He might have a sexual thought about one of the family dogs, or fucking a shrub. I try not to laugh, but sometimes it's tough. And then he insists that he likes girls, and asks over and over if he is gay. When he fixates, it might look like he is simply zoned out (this can be for an hour at a time). It might look like compulsive hand washing. It also might look like coming to my wife or me to "confess" the thought, and to get some sort of reassurance from us. These are all attempts at self-soothing, in my opinion. They have been so frequent for the past 6-8 months that it is causing us a lot of stress and anxiety. He mentioned not too long ago that he also had thoughts of harming himself, but those thoughts only happened after he had a friend commit suicide during Covid isolation. There's a concept called "sublimation" that I ran across recently. It's when a person diverts an impulse into a more socially acceptable activity. I think that he has always sublimated his OCD thoughts into baseball. But now, with the stress of college recruiting, baseball itself has become stressful. So there's nothing to sublimate those thoughts into. He will get up to bat against dudes throwing in the 70s and strike out repeatedly. After games, he'll say that he was having "thoughts" and that he couldn't concentrate. Sometimes the thoughts come so rapidly that he seems almost manic to me. It will sound like this, but with machine gun speed: "I was thinking about what it would be like if I <performed a sexual act> on that guy" "Son, does that seem like a real thought to you? Would you do that?" "NO! I like girls. Do you think I like girls?" "Yes, son, I know that you do. That was a trash thought, and you should let it go." "I ruined my game. I ruined this whole summer." "No son, you didn't. It was one game. Do better next time out and keep working hard." "Are you sure you think I like girls? I do like girls." And on and on. He and I have talked about it. He says that it's not so easy to let the "thoughts" go. That they seem so real at the time. When he first started having the same-sex thoughts, we would tell him some variation of, "Son, it doesn't matter if you are gay. We love you all the same and nothing can ever change that". But that was NOT the answer he was looking for. That answer only made it seem to him like we were confirming his thoughts. I've since come to believe that he's not likely gay at all, and that his heterosexuality is the reason for his fixation on those thoughts. It's like a logic trap that he's set up for himself/us. His thoughts are out of control. I don't think that the therapist we are going to is going to be the answer, long term. And his mother is dead-set against meds (she will do it as a last resort). The therapist is a friend of mine, though, and I know that my son will like him. It was so hard to talk him into going to see someone at all, and my hope is that my therapist friend can at least get him more comfortable in a therapy setting so that he can do the work that needs to be done going forward, even if it's with another therapist/specialist. Years ago I heard a sermon in church. It's come back to me lately, and it goes like this: There was a boy who was looking forward to the 4th of July. His family went and bought a bunch of fireworks. The boy was so looking forward to setting them off that he couldn't wait, and went in the backyard and lit one. It went off in his hand, and burned his arm terribly. And so the boy would go into the clinic to have his burned arm treated every few days. They would debride the wounds, and it was excruciating. So finally one day the boy went into the clinic and held his wounded arm behind his back, instead holding up his other hand and exclaiming, "Look! It's HEALED! We don't have to do this anymore!" The kind doctor pulled him aside and knelt next to the boy. He said, gently, "I know that it hurts. But you have to understand. In order to be healed, you have to hold your wounded arm up." I told my son that story after our first trip to the therapist. I've been through therapy a few times, and I know how easy it is to hide things there. My hope is that he opens up and lets people help him. I suppose I'm holding my wounded arm up here for you all to see, too. I'm worried about him. I love him. There's times when I think he's probably my best friend. I couldn't be prouder of him, I don't give a shit if he's a great baseball player, if he's gay or straight or whatever. He's my son and I want him to find a way to deal with this torment before it leads him down some dark path (which it surely will at some point). I've read through a lot on here. I know that none of this holds a candle to what some of you have been through. Thanks for listening.
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“I find it offensive“ You’re a sensitive little bitch, aren’t you?
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The nearly complete destruction and division of a nation will have its consequences, ya know
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Damn fine eulogy for us who didn’t know him. Sorry for your loss, sincerely. I’m 48 and haven’t lost a truly close friend yet. Most men don’t really make new friends as adults, so when we lose a part of our circle it’s a huge deal. Take care of yourself. Feel it and miss him, and pay attention to your own health and frame of mind. I wish you the very best and I’m sorry for what you are having to go through.
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Awesome. Thanks for sharing. My own grandfathers were both badasses from that generation, at least to me. Loved hearing any and every story they would tell, though there weren't many. Late in his life, dad's dad had an experience related to the War that I told briefly on here some time back. We got to experience that with him and it was one of the best and most noteworthy experiences of my life. Historical truism: you'd never want to get in a fight with your grandfather in his prime.
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I binged the first 9 episodes last week one day. The characters are engaging enough that even though there are aspects of the show that aren't convincing to me, I still wanted to know what happens to everyone. My biggest problem:
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Is it really?
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Match made in heaven. Jimbo will always demand more money, and victory-starved aggy will always ante up for their football program. I don’t think he leaves either. On the other hand, if Jimbo thinks that some sort of Sabanesque legacy is what he wants, LSU it is. That’s the only thing I can conceive of that would pull him away.
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As much as we knew at the time that Mack, et al watched message boards, I got to the point where I was certain that this early game play calling was an intentional middle finger to the fan base.
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This idea that receivers are a dime a dozen in Texas is true. We end up with the right guys without even trying. Kai Money proves it
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Thanks for this. It's a strange position I find myself in. I'm not the lawsuit type. I'm not even sure that what has happened to me warrants one. It for sure warrants being highly pissed off. It's a wait and see sort of thing, I think. In the end, if the thing doesn't work out, it's not even something that money will be able to fix anyway. I think I don't really have much choice but to do my best to keep Dr. W and his team, such as it is, on my side through this thing. I wouldn't choose him again, that's for sure.
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This is certainly what Dr. W pled. He said that he had a very good assistant who left prior to my surgery, and that the staff at this particular branch of UTHSC was just not up to speed yet. I get it. It doesn't make the whole thing less infuriating though. Maybe more infuriating, actually, since he knew that his staff was not functioning at 100% yet.
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I got my left shoulder replaced back in March. I am 48, so fairly young for this procedure. I had extreme osteoarthritis from a congenital defect in my shoulder, combined with playing football and an professional life filled with jack hammers and rock drills. The first surgeon I saw told me that my shoulder was "beyond him", and gave me a referral to another surgeon. So I went to see him. Let's call him Dr. W. Skip ahead if you aren't interested in the medical procedure that I underwent- Dr. W does a procedure called a "ream and run". Basically, the procedure involves replacing the humeral head (the top of the arm), as well as reaming the glenoid cavity to give it a new shape for the humeral head to operate within. A conventional shoulder replacement puts hardware in the glenoid cavity too, so that is the way that this surgery is different. I was attracted to the procedure because at my age, I can look forward to at least one more replacement operation before I die. Doing the ream and run would allow for a conventional shoulder replacement at that time, rather than a "reverse shoulder replacement", which has a lesser chance of being fully successful. All of the patient reviews I found on Dr. W were stellar. Here comes the juicy parts- Prior to the surgery, I did some blood work and a urinalysis. The day of the surgery, Dr. W showed me a few stretches I should be doing at home afterwards. I mean RIGHT before the surgery. He also told me to avoid "external rotation". I did the thing and went home. Of course it was a motherfucker. Home Health came in and asked if I had a rehab protocol from Dr. W. I said, no, but that he gave me several stretches to do and told me not to do any external rotation. All fine and good. I was stretching religiously, working with the home health PT, and making good progress. Or so I thought. One day, about five weeks post-op, the joint started moving around strangely. I called Dr. W, and he said to come on in immediately. When I got there, he manipulated my shoulder and told me that I had torn my subscapularis. As a result, I would need a second surgery. I would start back at square one with rehab, too. This was all confusing to me. I walked Dr. W through the rehab and stretches that I'd been doing, and he told me that I should not have been doing some of that stuff. It was obvious to me that I had torn up the surgery through my own ignorance. That pissed me off. Maybe I should have started looking around for another doctor at that point. But I didn't. I scheduled the new surgery for the following week. I told my employer about it, and he was super pissed that our insurance was about to take another hit. He told me that I should make sure that this next procedure was free. I didn't do any of that, because frankly I was in shock that I'd have to go under the knife again at all. This time, prior to the surgery, I got blood work and a urinalysis again. I also got a chest x-ray, an EKG, an info packet on the surgery, a rehab protocol, and some cleanser to use on my body prior to the surgery. I called Dr. W and went over all of this. Why had I not gotten any of this stuff prior to the first operation? If I had gotten this stuff, I wouldn't have been doing the stretches and exercises that I'd been doing. I wouldn't have fucked up the surgery and be having to do it all again. So surgery day arrives. Before the procedure, Dr. W tells me that while they are in there, he wants to look at the humeral component and see if it is matching up with my healing glenoid. If there is a more ideally shaped humeral head, they will replace mine with that. To do this, they wouldn't have to remove the entire prosthetic, just the round "top" of it, if you will. I said fine, go ahead. I came out of the surgery to my wife crying in a chair beside the bed. She tells me that Dr. W swung by after the surgery and told her that they had indeed decided to replace the humeral head during the procedure. But that while trying to remove it, they had fractured my humerus. A fissure fracture, running down the bone. This had loosened the entire prosthesis, and they had to wire my bone back together and drop an entirely new prosthetic in. Not good, Bob. So here I am, about 9 weeks after the second surgery. Shoulder has good days and bad. I am following the rehab protocol exactly, going to PT once per week and doing the rest at home. I'm thinking now that I just have to wait and see. If I start approaching the SOL on this thing and I have a piece of shit for a shoulder, maybe that's the right time to sue. But if things are going well, there will be no need to. All of this has been real hard on my home life and my work life. After the second surgery I was in a real fog for a couple of weeks. My wife told me that she thought the whole thing had broken my spirit. That woke me up some. Any of you Surlies have any thoughts about my "wait and see" approach?
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COVID-19 2nd wave - Texas only - Stats and such
Caver60 replied to justhookit's topic in Daily Texan
I’m surprised that you’re surprised that Aggy eats paste -
Well fuck me. Who the fuck am I? Sorry I forgot to check first with the dudes with a million posts before I got surly on a site called fucking SURLY HORNS. I read your stuff all the time, man. Through at least two websites now. You think you and the other 50 or so people who post nonstop like you don’t have jobs are the only people who read every fucking word on here? Look, I know that when nothing’s happening shit gets all mentally deficient in here. Just the way it goes. But this shit that hedges on political, and in some cases is two feet fully in political, can fuck right off. Sorry for partying.
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Jesus. Jesus H. Christ. I never thought I could be more annoyed than I was with the cheese puns. I stand corrected. At least some of that was mild cheddar funny. Tuskegee syphilis study? Terrible. Take it to another board. Eyes? What fucking recruit brought that up? Valai conjecture. Who gives a shit when it comes to recruiting. Nobody is standing around wondering if a statue of Sul Ross is going to keep Jimbo Baggins from finally filling in a date on that ridiculous plaque. George Wallace? Fuck off. My God, George fucking Wallace has been SUCH a detriment to ‘Bama recruiting I mean really, who in the wide world of fuck thinks any of this has anything remotely to do with the recruiting board? With all due respect, fuck you guys.
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Who's been covid vaxxed? Stand up and be counted.
Caver60 replied to High Plains Drifter's topic in Daily Texan
Got Pfizer #2 on Saturday. Had a few drinks that night. Strange, had chills but I wasn't cold. Ran between 99 and 100 temperature, but that was done by Sunday morning. I was really sore on Sunday, entire body. Felt great yesterday. Wife got Pfizer #2 on Sunday. Very fatigued on later that evening and yesterday, with a bad headache. -
COVID-19 2nd wave - Texas only - Stats and such
Caver60 replied to justhookit's topic in Daily Texan
The struggle is real, man. I've dealt with so many ant-maskers over the past year that I've lost count. The toughest stretch was between the start of this whole mess and the day that Trump came out finally and wore a mask himself. After that things evened out a little. We tried all sorts of things. We offered to put anti-maskers and their families on private tours for an exclusive price. That worked sometimes. Other times there was absolutely no way to make them happy. I totally lost my shit one day when a dude who refused to wear a mask was also open-carry, and stubbornly aggressive about it all. Worst part about it was our employees, who freaked out and damn near walked out over the implied threat. Yesterday a guy showed up who presented the old ADA bullshit card for me to check out. I was like, "nah, put that away. Wear a mask or come back when all of this is over. Check our website for when we drop the masking requirement." He wanted to argue and I had none of it. The guy left. To me this is like going to that friend's house whose mother required you to take off your shoes at the door. A minor inconvenience but those were the rules at her house so you just did it. It still depresses me how many of our fellow human beings out there will not do even the slightest something to even possibly keep someone from getting sick. It's nuts.
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