Headstone Legality Question

[lonestar3 274]

Mother passed away back in the mid-90's and there's always been just the standard grave marker that the cemetery places to mark the location. With mother's day coming up, I was thinking about getting a proper headstone done.

Question that I have is do you have to put the legal name at the time of death? Backstory is that she was going through the process of a divorce from someone who was in her life for a very short time before the cancer won its battle. Guy was kind of a piece of shit and his last name isn't something I'd want going on her eternal resting place. As next-of-kin, and headstone financier, would I have the option to use just her maiden name instead?

[Deej 77292]

Who is going to complain 25 years later? 

[Chewbacca 7807]

1 hour ago, lonestar3 said:

Mother passed away back in the mid-90's and there's always been just the standard grave marker that the cemetery places to mark the location. With mother's day coming up, I was thinking about getting a proper headstone done.

Question that I have is do you have to put the legal name at the time of death? Backstory is that she was going through the process of a divorce from someone who was in her life for a very short time before the cancer won its battle. Guy was kind of a piece of shit and his last name isn't something I'd want going on her eternal resting place. As next-of-kin, and headstone financier, would I have the option to use just her maiden name instead?

Are the headstone police gonna come get you? 

[TwiceHorn 31705]

No, there's no law governing what you have to put on a grave marker.  Might be some rules of the cemetery.

[4th&Five 41724]

[Bevo 13659]

I'm sure there are some rules. You can't just put "Well, Bye".

[lonestar3 274]

6 minutes ago, Bevo said:

I'm sure there are some rules. You can't just put "Well, Bye".

Well, damn.

Honestly, just didn't know if there was some sort of burial location/legal name connection that had to be upheld. I was going to ask my mom, but...

[RPM 26432]

1 hour ago, Bevo said:

I'm sure there are some rules. You can't just put "Well, Bye".

Sez who?

[Paco 1934]

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[RDCanecutter 26570]

19 hours ago, lonestar3 said:

As next-of-kin, and headstone financier, would I have the option to use just her maiden name instead?

I say go for it, and see what happens.

[luke duke 6420]

[PilotsError 2338]

Joey Peeps?

[RMac5 1551]

Tell em the divorce was final after she passed away. 

[VirginiaLonghorn 4826]

https://www.findagrave.com
 

Here’s a link to the grave police ..

[dcbc 14573]

[Kennythetiger 9503]

13 hours ago, VirginiaLonghorn said:

https://www.findagrave.com
 

Here’s a link to the grave police ..

Very cool link.

[VirginiaLonghorn 4826]

15 minutes ago, Kennythetiger said:

Very cool link.

You might be surprised exploring your family.  It’s much more user friendly, IMO, than the pay ancestry websites. 

[NeverMarryAStripper 22054]

14 hours ago, VirginiaLonghorn said:

https://www.findagrave.com
 

Here’s a link to the grave police ..

That's awesome.  I looked up my dad and found a picture of his tombstone.  They also had a picture of my mom's tombstone.  My mom is still alive, but when my dad died she had her tombstone made to match his and it's at the cemetery plot with only the date of death missing.