Depression, OCD, and whatever else ails you between the ears

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[Baboontyme 2877]

7 hours ago, tigol said:

I just noticed that I didn't address security.

I had the same initial misgivings, but the sessions are not recorded and the security steps put me at ease.  After the first couple sessions it didn't cross my mind.  I did use a VPN.

Thanks. I almost posted a follow up. I'm determined to be completely honest and transparent if I do this and thus I'm pretty nervous to admit to my multiple fetishes around random household appliances to someone only to have my data sold when a company gets acquired and yada yada yada next thing you know I'm banned from Bed Bath and Beyond. 

Did you go through a better help type of interface or a local provider that also sees clients virtually? 

[tigol 2470]

6 hours ago, Baboontyme said:

Thanks. I almost posted a follow up. I'm determined to be completely honest and transparent if I do this and thus I'm pretty nervous to admit to my multiple fetishes around random household appliances to someone only to have my data sold when a company gets acquired and yada yada yada next thing you know I'm banned from Bed Bath and Beyond. 

Did you go through a better help type of interface or a local provider that also sees clients virtually? 

It was an interface that the insurance allowed.  I think better help was one, but I found my therapist through Psychology Today and just followed the link.

[jetsfan76 788]

Does anyone else feel like life is just falling down a long, dark, infinite chasm, no matter how many good things are happening in their life? Oh, and fuck A&M.

[Kennythetiger 9590]

7 hours ago, jetsfan76 said:

Does anyone else feel like life is just falling down a long, dark, infinite chasm, no matter how many good things are happening in their life? Oh, and fuck A&M.

No. But a lot of times I feel like I am in a room, and all of the walls are moving in and squeezing me. 

[Baboontyme 2877]

I am curious if anyone in my general demographic (mid-late 40s male, straight as far as I know) has opinions on gender of the therapist. 

[Parliament 14575]

(Surly)

Post her pics and we'll decide.

(/Surly)

[Snake Diggity 4707]

15 hours ago, Baboontyme said:

I am curious if anyone in my general demographic (mid-late 40s male, straight as far as I know) has opinions on gender of the therapist. 

I think it heavily depends on your personality (and of course, the therapist).  I’ve had both and had better luck with women (no pics).  I tend to be more defensive and guarded with men because I want to be “right” whereas with women I tend to want to try to please them more (by talking more openly and being more engaged).  But I think the therapist’s intellect, style, background, annd personality are more important than their gender.

[troph 25100]

personally I prefer gay men as therapists.

[BearSchlong 8235]

My psychiatrist is a Hispanic woman from Webb county. She is also a close family friend and I’m convinced she’s crazier than me.

The insane psycho woman that grew my children in her womb is also an LPC. I’m over it now, but I used to be prejudiced against therapists.

However, wife #2 who adopted my kids and became their surrogate mother figure is now earning a MS and will be a LPC upon retirement from her state job in a few years.

Her therapist is a lesbian.

My AA sponsor which is the closest thing I have to a therapist is an old west Texas lawyer.

If I needed serious therapy I’d find someone like Lorraine Bracco.

[Frank Drebin 5827]

On 12/4/2024 at 6:21 PM, BearSchlong said:

My psychiatrist is a Hispanic woman from Webb county. She is also a close family friend and I’m convinced she’s crazier than me.

The insane psycho woman that grew my children in her womb is also an LPC. I’m over it now, but I used to be prejudiced against therapists.

However, wife #2 who adopted my kids and became their surrogate mother figure is now earning a MS and will be a LPC upon retirement from her state job in a few years.

Her therapist is a lesbian.

My AA sponsor which is the closest thing I have to a therapist is an old west Texas lawyer.

If I needed serious therapy I’d find someone like Lorraine Bracco.

Whatever happened to Gary Cooper?

[Lidig8r 1905]

On 12/4/2024 at 6:21 PM, BearSchlong said:

My psychiatrist is a Hispanic woman from Webb county. She is also a close family friend and I’m convinced she’s crazier than me.

The insane psycho woman that grew my children in her womb is also an LPC. I’m over it now, but I used to be prejudiced against therapists.

However, wife #2 who adopted my kids and became their surrogate mother figure is now earning a MS and will be a LPC upon retirement from her state job in a few years.

Her therapist is a lesbian.

My AA sponsor which is the closest thing I have to a therapist is an old west Texas lawyer.

If I needed serious therapy I’d find someone like Lorraine Bracco.

I could tell you horror stories about how the vast majority of therapists have NO BUSINESS rendering what they believe is therapy.

They are so caught up in countertransference that in any other profession, they could be sued for negligence and/or malpractice.

Here is an article on countertransference:

https://www.relationalpsych.group/articles/what-is-countertransference-in-therapy

If you are looking into therapy, you must, you must, YOU MUST, treat this relationship as an interview and YOU are interviewing the therapist to see if they are a good fit.  Do your research and homework.  Ask whatever questions you deem are appropriate.  If the therapist refuses to answer, give them one last opportunity and if the therapist is still reluctant to be transparent ... leave.

You are entrusting your emotions, your feelings, your fears and concerns with them. They must earn that trust by being transparent with you.

Accept nothing less!

[troph 25100]

I think modalities are equally as important, unfortunately without a lot of experience it’s really hard to know what to look for. I personally like internal family systems / “parts work” style therapy, body work / sympathetic / parasympathetic nervous system work / Re-decision therapy / inner child, critical parent type work. What I loathe is simple chit chat or talk therapy. Fucking open the hood, dismantle, and repair the damn thing instead of just talking about it. CRM comprehensive resource modeling is my new therapeutic style - it’s a parts work, SNS and para-SNS framework that kicks all kinds of ass for emotional trauma.

for me, I recognize the complexities of neurobiology and the interplay between conscious and unconscious thought, the brain is highly adaptive, reactive and symbolic. Combining latest research and a recognition that our frontal cortex (language) doesn’t even remotely touch our deepest traumas, it’s clear to me the best jumping off point for deep restorative work starts with the more obscure parts of the brain that we have little direct conscious access too. CRM is way out there - basically self induced conscious trance or dream like states using heavy imagery and symbolic work - but there is science behind it. 

Edited December 12 by troph

[Lidig8r 1905]

1 hour ago, troph said:

I think modalities are equally as important, unfortunately without a lot of experience it’s really hard to know what to look for. I personally like internal family systems / “parts work” style therapy, body work / sympathetic / parasympathetic nervous system work / Re-decision therapy / inner child, critical parent type work. What I loathe is simple chit chat or talk therapy. Fucking open the hood, dismantle, and repair the damn thing instead of just talking about it. CRM comprehensive resource modeling is my new therapeutic style - it’s a parts work, SNS and para-SNS framework that kicks all kinds of ass for emotional trauma.

for me, I recognize the complexities of neurobiology and the interplay between conscious and unconscious thought, the brain is highly adaptive, reactive and symbolic. Combining latest research and a recognition that our frontal cortex (language) doesn’t even remotely touch our deepest traumas, it’s clear to me the best jumping off point for deep restorative work starts with the more obscure parts of the brain that we have little direct conscious access too. CRM is way out there - basically self induced conscious trance or dream like states using heavy imagery and symbolic work - but there is science behind it. 

THIS is an incredibly insightful post.  A lot of very good information in here.

Thanks Troph.

[Lidig8r 1905]

Sometimes, in the midst of the Christmas Season, we receive a gift, unexpected but oh so welcome ...

https://adadsjourneywitheatingdisorders.home.blog/2024/12/13/christmas-trees-paganism-and-messages-from-angels/