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8 hours ago, Underdog said:

Dr. Galloway was back on Smerconish this morning and pretty much nailed it in regard to Trump zeroing in on young male voters with messaging, podcasts and such think he called it a Testosterone campaign. 

But, what did Trump really say to overgrown adolescent men? 

Or is it just the fact that he himself is an overgrown adolescent man that won the day?

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1 hour ago, Underdog said:

He already had that vote.

Well, as pointed out in the pod, he didn't in 2020.  Now, maybe it was that those aged 18-22 or thereabouts saw little or no progress under the Biden administration.

But, as far as I can tell, neither of them really delivered on a message to that group, unless it was just pure adolescent behavior.

And, of course, in addition to whatever things ail that particular generation, wage stagnation and asset inflation have been a good while coming and will take more than one administration to fix.  Those are the principal drivers of that problem.

ETA:  I think Galloway's observation that parents of young men swung because of their sons' failures was possibly a good observation, that is a lot of "Gen X" vote.

But my skepticism of Trump "policies" aside, I didn't hear anything from him that in any way directly addressed the plight of young men.

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54 minutes ago, TwiceHorn said:

Well, as pointed out in the pod, he didn't in 2020.  Now, maybe it was that those aged 18-22 or thereabouts saw little or no progress under the Biden administration.

But, as far as I can tell, neither of them really delivered on a message to that group, unless it was just pure adolescent behavior.

And, of course, in addition to whatever things ail that particular generation, wage stagnation and asset inflation have been a good while coming and will take more than one administration to fix.  Those are the principal drivers of that problem.

ETA:  I think Galloway's observation that parents of young men swung because of their sons' failures was possibly a good observation, that is a lot of "Gen X" vote.

But my skepticism of Trump "policies" aside, I didn't hear anything from him that in any way directly addressed the plight of young men.

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So I haven't fully read this thread, I am just going to share what I see happening in my nieces, nephews, my own kids and those in their social circles.  Not everything I mention is a super powerful force, but it is part of what I see funneling young men to dark places.

1.  There is a tremendous swell of positive mainstream content featuring empowered young girls/women.  Barbi shows an empowered woman navigating a less than perfect world, etc... 
2.  There is somewhat of a vacuum of positive mainstream content featuring young boys/men being good and navigating the world around them.  Even something like Deadpool vs Wolverine that likely appeals to young men more than young women, A) not exactly a model of behavior and B) not applicable to the modern world a young man lives in.
3.  Most families have both parents working with kids of all genders spending more time alone and more often than not, that time is spent online
4.  Pandemic isolation became a multiplier to the above context and drove more kids to be even more engaged online
5.  These kids basically are free to allow their mind able to wander an online world without supervision.  Its the psychological equivalent of dropping your kids off at the edge of Hong Kong and telling them to be home by supper.
6.  For boys, that online world is full of bad actors who are willing to fill the vacuum of parenting and mainstream content shaping to influence how boys and young/men think
7.  Young boys/men who are tolerant and respectful as individuals are being lumped in with all the young boys/men who are not and treated as part of a homogenous "Patriarchy".  They feel dammed if they do and dammed if they don't and it reinforces the bullshit getting injected into their heads online.  At that point, the young men are left to wonder -- is it really bullshit?

Basically, a lot of young men are being abandoned into a confusing vacuum.  And as they try to make sense of it, people who are looking at either making a buck, countering the feminist movement or both are happy to step in to fill the void of parenting and mainstream reinforcement to give those young men an ethos and purpose.

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Sons are 31 & 26, both married to educated women( masters in both cases) and with conservative fiscal values along with moderate social values.  They love competing with their peers in the workplace, for many of the reasons discussed in the thread.  
They both hate Trump and I credit the oldest for helping me see the light after 2016. There is ZERO chance yhey voted for him, but Gotdam! the alternative!!! That being said, some of what the left embraces fiscally ain’t real big in the win column for them.  Makes me wonder what their choices will be in 2028. 

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6 minutes ago, Iceman said:

That being said, some of what the left embraces fiscally ain’t real big in the win column for them.  Makes me wonder what their choices will be in 2028. 

Oh, please do tell what those things are compared to what Dotard has already shown us fiscally from 2016-2020 and has stated for 2025 onward such as crashing the economy to rebuild it.

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21 hours ago, Goredho said:

So I haven't fully read this thread, I am just going to share what I see happening in my nieces, nephews, my own kids and those in their social circles.  Not everything I mention is a super powerful force, but it is part of what I see funneling young men to dark places.

1.  There is a tremendous swell of positive mainstream content featuring empowered young girls/women.  Barbi shows an empowered woman navigating a less than perfect world, etc... 
2.  There is somewhat of a vacuum of positive mainstream content featuring young boys/men being good and navigating the world around them.  Even something like Deadpool vs Wolverine that likely appeals to young men more than young women, A) not exactly a model of behavior and B) not applicable to the modern world a young man lives in.
3.  Most families have both parents working with kids of all genders spending more time alone and more often than not, that time is spent online
4.  Pandemic isolation became a multiplier to the above context and drove more kids to be even more engaged online
5.  These kids basically are free to allow their mind able to wander an online world without supervision.  Its the psychological equivalent of dropping your kids off at the edge of Hong Kong and telling them to be home by supper.
6.  For boys, that online world is full of bad actors who are willing to fill the vacuum of parenting and mainstream content shaping to influence how boys and young/men think
7.  Young boys/men who are tolerant and respectful as individuals are being lumped in with all the young boys/men who are not and treated as part of a homogenous "Patriarchy".  They feel dammed if they do and dammed if they don't and it reinforces the bullshit getting injected into their heads online.  At that point, the young men are left to wonder -- is it really bullshit?

Basically, a lot of young men are being abandoned into a confusing vacuum.  And as they try to make sense of it, people who are looking at either making a buck, countering the feminist movement or both are happy to step in to fill the void of parenting and mainstream reinforcement to give those young men an ethos and purpose.

8.  Porn.  During their formative years, young boys are going down the wormhole of porn and as a result, don't know how to talk to an actual girl and end up as incels.  

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Oh, please do tell what those things are compared to what Dotard has already shown us fiscally from 2016-2020 and has stated for 2025 onward such as crashing the economy to rebuild it.

Thankfully, Fox News will be there to tell the American people that Biden crashed the economy and that Trump is doing the hard work of rebuilding it.

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4 minutes ago, Aqua Buddha said:

8.  Porn.  During their formative years, young boys are going down the wormhole of porn and as a result, don't know how to talk to an actual girl and end up as incels.  

Some teacher friends have said they have 3rd and 4th grade boys that constantly brag about watching porn. 

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13 minutes ago, CooterBrown said:

Oh, please do tell what those things are compared to what Dotard has already shown us fiscally from 2016-2020 and has stated for 2025 onward such as crashing the economy to rebuild it.

You missed the part where none of the 3 of us supports Trump.  Look down from your chart of canned responses and just read a post, sir...

The mindset of "That guy sucks shit through a straw, our sorry ass excuse of a plan is golden" is just as culpable in this whole discussion.

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There's a big difference

Ok, so how does that play out in adulthood( the difference?)

In the scary movies thread, or "I was too young..."  there are accounts of folks watching movies they they most definitely were not mature enough to properly digest.  Given your background, I would like to hear why sexuality would impact kids differently than watching other types of movies too early.

I'm not advocating it, by any means, I'm just asking how different is it developmentally for young boys.

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Being exposed to copious amounts of pornography (porn that is exponentially more graphic and intense than anything in Hustler/Playboy) during some of a brain's most formative developmental years is going to give someone some really fucked up perceptions of how to view women, sex, and combining the two.

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6 minutes ago, Iceman said:

Ok, so how does that play out in adulthood( the difference?)

In the scary movies thread, or "I was too young..."  there are accounts of folks watching movies they they most definitely were not mature enough to properly digest.  Given your background, I would like to hear why sexuality would impact kids differently than watching other types of movies too early.

I'm not advocating it, by any means, I'm just asking how different is it developmentally for young boys.

I’d guess most of what they’re watching involves women being subservient to men.  That, over and over, can certainly cement some ugly gender role norms for kids that age.  

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14 minutes ago, Iceman said:

You missed the part where none of the 3 of us supports Trump.  Look down from your chart of canned responses and just read a post, sir...

The mindset of "That guy sucks shit through a straw, our sorry ass excuse of a plan is golden" is just as culpable in this whole discussion.

What fiscally though? I’m in the same age as your sons (32). Had my first child the day after election, and the Harris child tax credit is something that I voted for. 
 

I see no financial benefit to me and my family in Trumps… concepts of plans. 

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26 minutes ago, Aqua Buddha said:

8.  Porn.  During their formative years, young boys are going down the wormhole of porn and as a result, don't know how to talk to an actual girl and end up as incels.  

Haven't personally seen that as a big issue with the youngins I drew my observations from, but I don't doubt that isn't a major issue for many.

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22 minutes ago, CooterBrown said:

Some teacher friends have said they have 3rd and 4th grade boys that constantly brag about watching porn. 

Yeah, this is a symptom of being left alone to wander the intardnet without guidance/controls.  Porn is just one of the hawkers vying for young men's attention in their hours spent online.

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12 minutes ago, CooterBrown said:

Some teacher friends have said they have 3rd and 4th grade boys that constantly brag about watching porn. 

3rd and 4th grade?  Good grief....

It's also the type of porn.  Back in the day, porn was basically a naked woman in a magazine.  Now, good lord.  It's everything.  Also, porn was hard to get.  "Porn in the woods."  You had to acquire it somehow through a friends older brother, literally finding it in the woods, etc.  Then you had to hide it from your parents.  All that for just a naked woman.

Now, it's all right there on your phone.  No wonder these young boys are screwed in the head.

I saw this as someone who is far from a sexual conservative but I'm also a grown man who was once a young boy.

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25 minutes ago, Aqua Buddha said:

3rd and 4th grade?  Good grief....

It's also the type of porn.  Back in the day, porn was basically a naked woman in a magazine.  Now, good lord.  It's everything.  Also, porn was hard to get.  "Porn in the woods."  You had to acquire it somehow through a friends older brother, literally finding it in the woods, etc.  Then you had to hide it from your parents.  All that for just a naked woman.

Now, it's all right there on your phone.  No wonder these young boys are screwed in the head.

I saw this as someone who is far from a sexual conservative but I'm also a grown man who was once a young boy.

I'd also posit that too much visual porn is consumed. Need to read some erotic stories to give folks a chance to leave something to the imagination, as well as illustrating that talking is a key component to going out and fucking. 

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2 hours ago, theaveragejon said:

What fiscally though? I’m in the same age as your sons (32). Had my first child the day after election, and the Harris child tax credit is something that I voted for. 
 

I see no financial benefit to me and my family in Trumps… concepts of plans. 

I think it depends. What's that line Chris Rock says? It's wrong, but I understand it.

I didn't vote for Trump, but financially I understand it from those worried about taxes and wealth (and capital gains). People my age are worried about their money, not enshrining rights for great-grandchildren, unfortunately.

And 100% yes to everything said about porn. I would be surprised if that's not a near consensus in thought. But for some reason we hold the right of free porn as a bill of right, but I remember the old days referenced above. Mags, photos, dear penthouse imagination sexting, with the most graphic thing being Skinemax and then later the playboy channel.

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On 11/12/2024 at 11:48 AM, Goredho said:

So I haven't fully read this thread, I am just going to share what I see happening in my nieces, nephews, my own kids and those in their social circles.  Not everything I mention is a super powerful force, but it is part of what I see funneling young men to dark places.

1.  There is a tremendous swell of positive mainstream content featuring empowered young girls/women.  Barbi shows an empowered woman navigating a less than perfect world, etc... 
2.  There is somewhat of a vacuum of positive mainstream content featuring young boys/men being good and navigating the world around them.  Even something like Deadpool vs Wolverine that likely appeals to young men more than young women, A) not exactly a model of behavior and B) not applicable to the modern world a young man lives in.
3.  Most families have both parents working with kids of all genders spending more time alone and more often than not, that time is spent online
4.  Pandemic isolation became a multiplier to the above context and drove more kids to be even more engaged online
5.  These kids basically are free to allow their mind able to wander an online world without supervision.  Its the psychological equivalent of dropping your kids off at the edge of Hong Kong and telling them to be home by supper.
6.  For boys, that online world is full of bad actors who are willing to fill the vacuum of parenting and mainstream content shaping to influence how boys and young/men think
7.  Young boys/men who are tolerant and respectful as individuals are being lumped in with all the young boys/men who are not and treated as part of a homogenous "Patriarchy".  They feel dammed if they do and dammed if they don't and it reinforces the bullshit getting injected into their heads online.  At that point, the young men are left to wonder -- is it really bullshit?

Basically, a lot of young men are being abandoned into a confusing vacuum.  And as they try to make sense of it, people who are looking at either making a buck, countering the feminist movement or both are happy to step in to fill the void of parenting and mainstream reinforcement to give those young men an ethos and purpose.

 

Good post as always.

 

My main impetus in starting the thread in the first place, other than it's a serious subject and we had mentioned coming back to it after the election, is that I completely admit to being out of touch on most of this stuff, and with a son who is growing up, pretty concerned. I have felt alienated from mainstream America for quite some time, but with this subject it's not really alienation as just some for of bafflement as I feel like I really don't get the motivations of a lot of these kids. It's just completely foreign to me and my experiences. I guess one other thing is the younger guys I do know are not necessarily like this, the have good jobs, starting families etc..., so probably some self selecting deal going on with who I'm around. The one exception is my old neighbor's kid, who is probably 22 or so now, lives at home, not really any plans. But frankly the kid is an idiot so I don't use him as a data point on someone left behind.

 

The internet thing is real for sure. I am astounded at some of the stories here. My son is very much monitored on the internet, and will be till he is grown. Giving a child free reign on the interwebs is the most insane thing I've ever heard.

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I work in engineering and currently work with some youngins. Here is what I glean from professional class GenZ:

1.) A lot more women. That Stem focus for girls in the 2000’s worked. That’s good!

2.) But with this, comes a weird sense of entitlement. Now I’m all for allowing discussion, getting all sides, etc. But a 1st year female EIT giving their opinion on how a project should be run makes my blood boil. Just work. Put your head down and hustle. You don’t have the experience or knowledge to speak up in a large meeting. Shut up, nod your head, and churn. That speaks louder than any words.

3.) The younger male engineers seemed unmoored. They don’t seem all that ambitious. I know we millennials got so much shit for the same things but there is an element of ‘why bust my ass, shut is borked’ anywayism. I’ve been told multiple times of guys not dating bc they feel they can’t measure up. They feel the standards that girls place on them are too high so why try. This comes across as lazy. And entitled in its own way. They don’t know where to fit in society. They see macho culture as an easier time. What they don’t realize is that time of single income families produced a lot of drunk and absent dads who beat the shit out of you. Moms on uppers or downers to kill the soul crushing emptiness of the same shit every day. Not so great!

4.) They feel poor. Even with great jobs, they feel squeezed. They don’t know if they ever will buy a house. And they have social media selling snake oil and get rich quick bs. Again, they don’t know how to hustle.
5.) Their whole life has been post 9/11. And that’s why I cut them some slack. Just think about growing up in a time of fear like that? School shootings? Yep. Financial crisis? Yep. Covid? Yep. Donald Trump has been around for half their life. He’s the norm! They’ve got culture PTSD. 

 

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If you're having trouble meeting women then get a dog. Train it so you can bring it to dog friendly bars. 

Women will flock to you. I give my dog direct credit for 75% of the women I've met over the past 7 years. The other 25% me just being a sexy bitch.

So 75% of it is that your dog is a sexy bitch?  Impressive!

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3 hours ago, Vegas64 said:

And 100% yes to everything said about porn. I would be surprised if that's not a near consensus in thought. But for some reason we hold the right of free porn as a bill of right, but I remember the old days referenced above.

You'd be wrong.

 

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This dude on tick tock or YouTube or whatever  (hoemath) a lot of content spiels on  dating dynamics now…. Which I Feel like were mostly always true but the dynamics of women getting to be on equal economic footing has really thrown a wrench into dating that I don’t think we’ve really hashed out yet. This plays into the aggrieved young male dynamic. 

 

 
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8 hours ago, G650 said:

My son is very much monitored on the internet, and will be till he is grown. Giving a child free reign on the interwebs is the most insane thing I've ever heard.

This is true but it's also privilege, we shouldn't lose sight of that.

The working class and the middle class who have two working parents and limited child-care SOMETIMES can't help but to leave kids at home unattended and use YouTube as a babysitter. And YouTube is algorithmically built to be addictive and the greatest attention sucking babysitter ever.

I have a running rule that my grandkids are NOT allowed any ipads or technology when in public. I know it makes it harder for those around us at an airport or a restaurant, but that is how children learn how to behave. You go through those growing pains. Just giving kids a digital pacifier is how you end up with 20-somethings with the massive blindspots and using technology as an emotional support animal.

So, sorry for the outbursts and noise and public discipline but long-term it's better for society. Which is also why I'm way more gracious to parents doing the same thing in public and it tugs at my heart to see kids given their well-worn, rubber-coated tablets.

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12 hours ago, Aqua Buddha said:

8.  Porn.  During their formative years, young boys are going down the wormhole of porn and as a result, don't know how to talk to an actual girl and end up as incels.  

Well, and sometimes they do talk to a girl, then brutally face fuck her, ass fuck her, and jizz in her face.  It's all down hill from there.

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