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And I don’t mean if you’re on the verge of divorce or whatever.  You’re happily married.  I’ve heard this is a thing. Last night my daughter was under the weather so my wife slept with her.   I had the bed all to myself and man 8.5 hours of uninterrupted sleep.  
 

not saying I’d do it permanently.   I think colon cowherd does this

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19 minutes ago, Im_smarter_then_you said:

And I don’t mean if you’re on the verge of divorce or whatever.  You’re happily married.  I’ve heard this is a thing. Last night my daughter was under the weather so my wife slept with her.   I had the bed all to myself and man 8.5 hours of uninterrupted sleep.  
 

not saying I’d do it permanently.   I think colon cowherd does this

Not a thing. If you're not on the verge of divorce, it'll lead to one. Or at least it'll lead to separation and essentially the same thing as divorce. 

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Interesting question. My wife and I started doing this on certain nights during COVID to minimize the risk of the entire family getting sick. What we realized was how wonderfully each of us slept. My wife is a furnace and moves way too much at night and I snore like crazy. While we still sleep in the same bed most nights now, if there is a big presentation or we are stressed or we havent slept well recently, we will watch TV together and then around 10pm one of us will go to the guest room. I go back and forth on how important it actually is to sleep in the same bed. I think its a "well of course you are supposed to sleep in the same bed as your wife" but I think its importance will wain over time. We have been married 19 years and counting. We dont need to spent every second together and it allows us some space without feeling bad about it. And the sleep....100 times better and more restful.

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21 minutes ago, UTGrad98 said:

and I snore like crazy. 

I'd bet good money this is the #1 reason for separate beds.  I snore, but we're still in the same bed, 24 years in.  My wife does slap me on the forehead now and again, though.

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Last 3 years with the ex we did because my ex insisted on having our daughter sleep with us.  Finally, one day I said fuck it and went off to the spare bedroom and it was glorious.

The last year of the marriage the ex kept bringing the subject up; in our marriage counseling when I told the counselor the reason I slept elsewhere she took off her glasses, stared at the ex and essentially asked her what the hell was she thinking...then looked at me and told me that yes, she would be sleeping in another room if her spouse insisted on having their child sleep with us.  My ex was pissed.    I was smug.

 

With wife #2, we have never slept in separate beds.  I do snore occasionally, but one year I purchased Bose sleepbuds for my wife....and she thanked me, rather enthusastically.  Bose does not make them any longer, but Ozlo does.  Highly recommended if your spouse snores, or if you do and want to help your partner out:

 

https://ozlosleep.com/

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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11 minutes ago, Francisco 2.0 said:

Last 3 years with the ex we did because my ex insisted on having our daughter sleep with us.  Finally, one day I said fuck it and went off to the spare bedroom and it was glorious.

The last year of the marriage the ex kept bringing the subject up; in our marriage counseling when I told the counselor the reason I slept elsewhere she took off her glasses, stared at the ex and essentially asked her what the hell was she thinking...then looked at me and told me that yes, she would be sleeping in another room if her spouse insisted on having their child sleep with us.  My ex was pissed.    I was smug.

 

With wife #2, we have never slept in separate beds.  I do snore occasionally, but one year I purchased Bose sleepbuds for my wife....and she thanked me, rather enthusastically.  Bose does not make them any longer, but Ozlo does.  Highly recommended if your spouse snores, or if you do and want to help your partner out:

 

https://ozlosleep.com/

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How old is your child?

I have a colleague who has a two br and their 5 and 2 year old sleep in the same bed.   
 

then my other colleague says he sleeps in a seperate room from his wife and that’s what keeps them happy

 

a good nights sleep is underrated.  Makes you feel ten years younger 

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Just now, Im_smarter_then_you said:

How old is your child?

At that time, she was 4.   When she was 7, my ex and I divorced.

My ex confided to me a year or so after the divorce that our daughter still slept with her, and said it was impossible to get our daughter to sleep in her own bed.    Funny, our daughter had no issues sleeping in her own bed at my house when she was staying with me.  

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Almost every night since we were married in 2002.  I have insomnia, restless legs, and have to be cold to sleep.  I sleep with my window wide open regardless of how cold it is.  I just don't want to keep her up all night.  

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1 hour ago, Francisco 2.0 said:

With wife #2, we have never slept in separate beds.  I do snore occasionally, but one year I purchased Bose sleepbuds for my wife....and she thanked me, rather enthusastically.  Bose does not make them any longer, but Ozlo does.  Highly recommended if your spouse snores, or if you do and want to help your partner out:

 

https://ozlosleep.com/

 

Thanks for posting that link. Those look pretty damn cool. My wife has to have perfect conditions to get a good night of sleep. Eye mask, ear plugs, temperature, etc. Those look like something she would really dig. I’d also like to try them out for overnight international flights. I struggle to sleep on planes, even in lie flat seats and my air pods are super uncomfortable when I’m trying to sleep on my side.

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1 hour ago, Knoxtnhorn said:

Almost every night since we were married in 2002.  I have insomnia, restless legs, and have to be cold to sleep.  I sleep with my window wide open regardless of how cold it is.  I just don't want to keep her up all night.  

That's the other thing, we both like to sleep in the cold.  Like windows open, outside air on.  It's like 58 degrees

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Wife No. 2 is currently sleeping in the guest room.  She's 52 and in perimenopause, and one of her symptoms is horrible sleep patterns, usually being wide awake in the middle of the night for an hour or so, and getting long sustained chunks of sleep during the night has become difficult.  She's volunteered to take the guest room most nights so she's not waking me up, and because I often start my weekday morning routine before her and need access to the master bathroom, etc.

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Yes, but only because I snore like a motherfucker. We go to bed, and I've always been the "early to bed" person; but talk, watch a show together, fill in the blanks.  Then she'll get up, and go to bed in other room.

In the mornings, I wake up before her, feed the dogs, and then almost always go to get in her bed at 15 minutes before her alarm.

So at the risk of TMI, yeah, we still have intimacy, we just SLEEP in different beds, again, because I sound like a train.

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2 hours ago, Horn_Spanker said:

When I see old shows like Dick Van Dyke show and they are in separate twin beds, I think, man, what would I do with all that extra real-estate if I had my own twin bed!

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Yeah, i sleep with the girlfriend. Wife sleeps with the dog. 

But forreal, we transitioned to separate blankets. I have a thinner one, she has a thicker one, and we never have to jostle for it. We also use separate adjustable slats under the mattress so the bedfeel is slightly different on each side.

I snore tons. She got used to it. Once in a blue moon if one of us is deeply ill we might sleep separate. 

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3 hours ago, 52-80 said:

Yeah, i sleep with the girlfriend. Wife sleeps with the dog. 

But forreal, we transitioned to separate blankets. I have a thinner one, she has a thicker one, and we never have to jostle for it. We also use separate adjustable slats under the mattress so the bedfeel is slightly different on each side.

I snore tons. She got used to it. Once in a blue moon if one of us is deeply ill we might sleep separate. 

 

We usually sleep in separate beds. I have a nasty habit of sticking my thumb up her ass in the middle of the night which she isn't too fond of. No pics. For real.

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6 hours ago, Surly Bevo said:

Sounds like some of you mofos need to see. Sleep Medicine doc

I regret not doing a sleep study when i literally lived next to a sleep study lab and was single and had nights to burn. 

BMI low 20s so the only remedy might be to fucking zap my tonsils with a laser or something. 

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I regret not doing a sleep study when i literally lived next to a sleep study lab and was single and had nights to burn. 
BMI low 20s so the only remedy might be to fucking zap my tonsils with a laser or something. 

I had a buddy that was fucking a chick that worked at a sleep study place. They’d do it there.

I don’t sleep in the same bed as my wife. Haven’t in 4 or 5 years, other than a handful of times.
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36 minutes ago, Jkwellborn said:


I don’t sleep in the same bed as my wife. Haven’t in 4 or 5 years, other than a handful of times.

Sure, but what about with your girlfriend?

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